"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nice guys don't finish last. Nice idiots do.

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yeah this is so true. I think the kind of niceness people appreciate is the one where you are nice just because you want to. Learn to differentiate between someone being needy and someone respecting you. It's ok to help people when they ask something of you. A needy person will try to convince you otherwise by making you feel like sh!t if you don't, a good person will offer something in return or accept a no.

Surprisingly it worked extremely well to be nice and do things slowly in a nightclub, because nobody else does that. It's not about sucking up to them, it's about knowing what actually makes them feel good. Sure it's manipulation, but as long as your intentions are good who gives a fvck.

Above all, pay attention outside yourself and you might discover that nothing is like you think it is.
 

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I think there's a massive difference between being "nice" and being "kind"

Nice guys tend to want something from their niceness, whereas kind people give with no expectation of anything in return.
 
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