"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Aesthetix29

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okay so I'm a pretty laid back decent guy ... And I think this is my problem I'm too nice .. How do I change this mindset without becoming arrogant? Causing me serious issues after the first few dates this ( it's like I'm fvcking boring )
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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dustmuffin

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Read the dj bible, read the book no more Mr nice guy. That will be a good start.
 

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Just don't be too accommodating. There is nothing wrong with being nice and friendly, but do do this at the expense of your own happiness.

Also ditch the idea that you can get women to like you by being 'nice'. Being too accommodating sends up Red Flags with women because you are not being authentic. Also, woman are mentally conditioned to look for men that can take care of them.... everyone knows you can not take care of others if you do not take care of yourself first. surrender what you want you don't have respect for yourself... if you don't respect your self, she won't respect you... no respect = no love.
 

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Also... don;t worry about ticking off women. It is better if she is mad at you than if she doesn't care about you. If she asks you to do something for her, and you don't want to do it, then say no... she might not like it, but if you don;t agree to be her butler, she might be mad, but she will respect you.
 

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You can be "nice" and still pull tail, you just need an edge. The problem with most nice guys are they come off as being desperate and having no backbone. They're a pushover.

"Nice" is such a broad term, but I'll give you the example of Ryan Gosling in the movie Drive. He's a "nice" guy to the girl he's interested in and her kid, but he has an edge to him. He's nice to this chick because it's in his nature, NOT because she's hot and he wants to bang so he's gonna take her out and buy her flowers and pay for her meal. That's the big difference and where a lot of guys fall short with women.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The dj bible is at the top of this forum.

No more mr nice guy. Is on the redpill reddit on their side bar. You can also Google a pdf of it.

Another good book is "I feel guilty when I say no"
 

daddymonsterpoodle

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+1. I was a nice guy in my marriage. Tried to do all the right things, be sensitive etc etc. Didnt work. I am now unmarried partly because I wouldnt argue or ever put myself first or ever tell her to stop being a bytch.

I think I can still be nice but I am not a nice guy in the way I used to be. The first baby step is learning the power of saying no and backing it up with actions. The 2nd step is realising you will offend people and enjoying it. The 3rd step is making it clear you are a sexual man, with direct eye contact and kino. 4th step is learning not to give a fvck and knowing you can walk away whenever you want.
 

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I'm just listening to the 'no more me nice guy audio book' any more audio books recommended? Cheers
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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