Nice guy: kiss of death

[Atldude]

So I met this really sweet girl, and I was interested in her. I found out from her friend that she thought I was a "very nice guy". I knew then I was screwed. So I asked her if she wanted to try something. She told me her heart wasn't opening up to it. No surprise. If someone thinks you are a "nice guy" you are screwed.

Anyone else got thoughts on this.

Take it easy,

 

[Acq]

when I was a nice guy I got approached by OLD ladies of 40-50 years of age who offered me to have sex with them when I went out. Girls of my age or below ignored me or treated me as a "nice guy"

 

[young_gun]

You aren't necessarily screwed. You don't have to an @sshole to attract women. Being respectful to women, in itself, is a good thing. You can be nice to women and not be seen as a "nice guy".

Where you start to get into bad territory is when you start becoming a spineless wimp. Guys that are too afraid to make a move, are boring, and have no passion in life are what turn women away.

Just be confident.

 

[tsmith2334]

You aren't necessarily screwed. You don't have to an @sshole to attract women. Being respectful to women, in itself, is a good thing. You can be nice to women and not be seen as a "nice guy".

Where you start to get into bad territory is when you start becoming a spineless wimp. Guys that are too afraid to make a move, are boring, and have no passion in life are what turn women away.

Just be confident.

+1

I'll quote a post I made last month that I got rep points for

You can actually fare pretty well for yourself even if you are a nice, humble guy.

I know first hand that there are some girls that inherently want a man to treat them badly (despite always denying it). However, those aren't women you'd want to date in the long term anyway... trust me.

Mature women with good heads on their shoulders ultimately yearn for a man that is sexy, confident, smart, nice, AND down to earth.

The truth is, few men have all these traits. The ones who find success with women usually are confident, ****y, etc. but don't care about being nice. Those are the "a-holes" everyone complains about and the boyfriends that turn into ex's.

The men that are the nice, friendly, likable guys who also command respect and know how to turn a women on are the true catch. They are typically the men that women ultimately end up marrying and bragging about to their girlfriends.

Getting to that level requires confidence (making it a catch-22), but it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.

 

[thechallenger]

So She Already Sees The Nice "side" Of You Thats Good You Have Established That You Are A Good Hearted Dude
Now Blindside Her With The Bad Mother F-r Inside Of You If You Dont Have It Get It
Like Tim Mcgraws Song
Let Me Show You How A Real Bad Boy Can Be A Real Good Man