"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Nice guy: kiss of death

Atldude

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So I met this really sweet girl, and I was interested in her. I found out from her friend that she thought I was a "very nice guy". I knew then I was screwed. So I asked her if she wanted to try something. She told me her heart wasn't opening up to it. No surprise. If someone thinks you are a "nice guy" you are screwed.

Anyone else got thoughts on this.

Take it easy,
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Acq

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when I was a nice guy I got approached by OLD ladies of 40-50 years of age who offered me to have sex with them when I went out. Girls of my age or below ignored me or treated me as a "nice guy"

;)
 

young_gun

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You aren't necessarily screwed. You don't have to an @sshole to attract women. Being respectful to women, in itself, is a good thing. You can be nice to women and not be seen as a "nice guy".

Where you start to get into bad territory is when you start becoming a spineless wimp. Guys that are too afraid to make a move, are boring, and have no passion in life are what turn women away.

Just be confident.
 

tsmith2334

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young_gun said:
You aren't necessarily screwed. You don't have to an @sshole to attract women. Being respectful to women, in itself, is a good thing. You can be nice to women and not be seen as a "nice guy".

Where you start to get into bad territory is when you start becoming a spineless wimp. Guys that are too afraid to make a move, are boring, and have no passion in life are what turn women away.

Just be confident.
+1 :up:

I'll quote a post I made last month that I got rep points for

You can actually fare pretty well for yourself even if you are a nice, humble guy.

I know first hand that there are some girls that inherently want a man to treat them badly (despite always denying it). However, those aren't women you'd want to date in the long term anyway... trust me.

Mature women with good heads on their shoulders ultimately yearn for a man that is sexy, confident, smart, nice, AND down to earth.

The truth is, few men have all these traits. The ones who find success with women usually are confident, ****y, etc. but don't care about being nice. Those are the "a-holes" everyone complains about and the boyfriends that turn into ex's.

The men that are the nice, friendly, likable guys who also command respect and know how to turn a women on are the true catch. They are typically the men that women ultimately end up marrying and bragging about to their girlfriends.

Getting to that level requires confidence (making it a catch-22), but it's a self-fulfilling prophecy.
 

thechallenger

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So She Already Sees The Nice "side" Of You Thats Good You Have Established That You Are A Good Hearted Dude
Now Blindside Her With The Bad Mother F-r Inside Of You If You Dont Have It Get It
Like Tim Mcgraws Song
Let Me Show You How A Real Bad Boy Can Be A Real Good Man
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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