"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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nexting girl, no kiss on 1st date

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pyros said:
well, what I meant was, if you would next a girl WHO REJECTED YOUR KISS on a first date.

Anyway, from my experience, I always go for a kiss on the first date, always.
In the last year just two girls have rejected my kiss on a first date and I have nexted both of them, and they haven't contacted me after that. See this, eventhough we had a nice time they were either not attracted to me or not emotionally available, so the kiss test is a powerful tool to separate the wheat from the chaff.

Why would you want to waste your time, energy etc, with a woman that is not that into you but you have to have a second date to confirm it?

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i dont know why that hand emoticon appeared above.

If the date went well overall and she rejected the kiss on the first date then yes I would likely next her. I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. I usually don't go for the kiss on the first date. But if that's your method of screening then you should stick with what works for you.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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To offer a counterpoint:

2 days ago, I went out on an awesome date with a HB7, made out. She went ghost ever since. I think its pretty absurd you're basing a woman's interest level on a 1st date kiss, believe it or not, some women are pretty conservative. (especially in Asia, don't count when you are a white male gaming in a foreign place)
 
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