"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Next Step? Confused?

tmac15

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Alright fellas

Some advice please. I've been out with this gal three times. The first time was alright. Second time went well. The third time I wanted to test her a bit. So I texted do you want to go tomorrow which happened to be this past Wednesday? We texted throughtout the night tuesday, and I sent a text saying "Actually you should come pick me up from work, i'm gonna be there late". No response till 5 pm. the next day, saying " If you work late why do you want to go out" I said to destress you should come pick me up from work. " I don't want to drive all the way to the southside to pick you up." She responds with alright " I'm gonna work out for a bit then well go get margaritaas or something."

So she picks me up we go to dinner good conversation throughout the night all good IOI's. I give her a tour of my building with slowly escalating kino. Holding hands, then played with her face. Eventually I walked her to her car and I told her I should get a good night kiss., then I went in for the kiss (first time we kissed). She reciprocated with the kissing. After the short makeout session, I said what are you doing tomorrow, and Friday. She responds with I have family stuff to do. So I haven't heard from hear Thursday, and today.

Now what? This girl would qualify as a good girl that is really quiet and shy. I don't know if she is lying or if she's lost interest. My gut say's don't call her until Sunday and If she doesn't want to do anything just drop her. Sound right to you guys??
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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JDA70

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YOU seem a bit clingy.
Yeah give her some space to think about you.
 

Ollie

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I don't understand the problem...so you went out, had fun, made out with her, and she has plans this weekend so you think you should next her? That makes no sense. Do you think she should spend every waking minute with a guy she just started dating? Pull away a bit and let her breathe. You should really only go out once or twice a week at this point. You want her to be thinking about you. Also, don't make plans for the next date while still out. Mystery is key when you first start talking to a girl.
 

Pimp-sicle

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Stop being so needy!! And don't tell her you should "get a kiss." Call her Sunday...

In the meantime go out with your friends and meet more girls...



PIMP
 

tmac15

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Alright, Fellas that what I needed. I needed a reality check, appreciate it.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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