"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey guys,

I've been lurking around this forum for awhile and learned a lot of great lessons but figured i'd see what you guys think of this situation. This girl really threw herself at me about a month ago and I didn't warm up to her too much, or all that quickly. Things started to escalate and we saw each other about 2-3 times in total (a few make out sessions but no sex). So anyways, I usually call this girl max once a week and only to ask for a date never a full out conversation longer than 10 mins. Last week she rejects my date saying that she had to be somewhere and that she felt bad because if she could make it she would. She also counter offers that the following week we could get together and that I should call her. Huge red flags go off here to me, but I figured i'd give her the benefit of the doubt. I call back about 9 days later (at home) and she isn't home so I text her cell phone asking to give me a call when she can. She reponds by saying i'll call you when I get home. Its getting late (around 11:30pm) and I don't want anyone calling my ass at 1am to wake me up so I text back "I'm exhausted. Don't worry about calling back tonight." Haven't lost my cool at all. So far she hasn't called back today and i'm thinking she is either sh*t testing or low interest loser cause I don't think i've done anything to appear needy. My gut says NEXT..what do you guys think?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I would call her back and check things out. Maybe your text sounded harsh to her as well, when you asked her not to call back. If she says no, she can't go on a date again, just ask her if she's interested or if you should just brake things up. It's as simple as that. If she says yes, then do something special and romantic on your date, so you will make her feel special. The she will be hooked!:) .
 

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definatly dont call, let her think about her actions for a bit, if u call back now u mite aswell hand ur balls on a plate to her
 
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You aren't sounding as too needy or clingy.

BUT, girls can be strange sometimes and think in peculiar ways...

If she isn't taking your bait though, I would just cut your losses and move on (assuming you aren't that attached to her).

Good Luck!
 

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Thanks guys. Its probably way better to find these things out sooner rather than later so I may as well move on :D
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Your not being needy. It seems lately both of your scheduals arent working out. I would wait for her to call you. Also, start looking for other women to date.
 
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