"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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FunkyMillion

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hey guys,

i called this girl up enviting her to a dinner but she said that she was busy with friends and family stuff on the specific day that I envited her.

but i'm not sure if I should just next this girl or give her a second chance and call her again in two weeks.

any advice into how I should approach this and what should I say when I call her, etc....

-Funk
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What I would do it this:

1. Wait three days... Call her in the middle of the day.

2. Ring three times, if she doesn't pick up, its game over.

3. If she picks up, flff her for 35 seconds, dont mention anything about the day that she could not make it... and close for a day or two later...

4. If she says yes, say k, see you then and hang up... don't stick around...

If she says no or can't say "allright, well I'll see you around." If there was any potential there, this will get her to call you back...
 

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ya you can call her in a couple of weeks or whatever...did she offer to kick it another time? If she's busy again it means shes a BIITCH and you should use your time to bag some other girl
 

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What I would do it this:

1. Wait three days... Call her in the middle of the day.

2. Ring three times, if she doesn't pick up, its game over.

3. If she picks up, flff her for 35 seconds, dont mention anything about the day that she could not make it... and close for a day or two later...

4. If she says yes, say k, see you then and hang up... don't stick around...

If she says no or can't say "allright, well I'll see you around." If there was any potential there, this will get her to call you back...
thanks, I was just thinking of doing this but instead of three days I'm thinking of two weeks cuz I'm busy as well; there are some things that I need to get done.


ya you can call her in a couple of weeks or whatever...did she offer to kick it another time? If she's busy again it means shes a BIITCH and you should use your time to bag some other girl
ya, she mentioned something about calling her back some other times because the day that I set up a date was not good for her because of family and friends stuff. I'm thinking that this might be an excuse and, hence, a low IL? what do you think?
 

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Originally posted by FunkyMillion
ya, she mentioned something about calling her back some other times because the day that I set up a date was not good for her because of family and friends stuff. I'm thinking that this might be an excuse and, hence, a low IL? what do you think?

No, she probably mean't "call me back some other time because the day that you set up a date on was not good for me"

Guys you need to understand people have lives!! even girls with sky high IL have lives and plans with family and friends. You can't expect them to drop those plans to meet a guy they don't even know.

Stay cool and try in a few days.

Ask her again - and if she still can't make it and doesn't give you a FIRM alternative date THEN you NEXT her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Monkey
No, she probably mean't "call me back some other time because the day that you set up a date on was not good for me"

Guys you need to understand people have lives!! even girls with sky high IL have lives and plans with family and friends. You can't expect them to drop those plans to meet a guy they don't even know.

Stay cool and try in a few days.

Ask her again - and if she still can't make it and doesn't give you a FIRM alternative date THEN you NEXT her.

AMEN brotha,

as a side note, this is a busy time of year for alot of people what with the holidays and all
 

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thanks a bunch guys. I appreciate the suggestions..

I'll give another crack at it.

-Funk
 
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