"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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next or not

MacAvoy

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I have been seeing this one girl since New Years eve. We talked for a couple months prior to that.

I have kept it very casual and non-commital. Early on she tried to make it exclusive but I nixed that pretty quickly. Since then, she hasn't tried to force the issue. Although a couple of times she asked if I was seeing anyone else, I said no at the time but I have since seen other women. (I was upset at her one weekend so I went out and laid 2 different women)

There have been several times wheres she has upset me and I simply withdraw slightly and punish her. I know this has no long term possibilities, even if she thinks otherwise.

So my question is, should I keep her hanging around for the occasional lay. She knows I am very busy and that is the perfect excuse to keep her at bay or should I totally next her?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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CyranoDeBergerac

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When in doubt next.

You already said you have no further use for her, so why keep her around as long as you can get laid elsewhere?

Oh yeah, and then there's that courtesy of not leading a person on. You don't like it when women do it to men and what's good for the goose is ood for the gander.
 

ScrewIt

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if she still has a high IL in you, dont Next her just yet.
keep the game going.

but if you find out she's starting to flake on you, NEXT!
 

MacAvoy

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She has very high IL in me. Oh yea, one of the reasons why there is no ltr potential from my aspect is because she was just divorced last year. She found out her husband was cheating in the fall. She said she had her rebound guy already, but I know she still has sh1t to deal with.
 

Kineti[C]harm

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Why would you next a perfectly good lay you can have whenever you practically want without strings attached?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Genghis Juan

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I agree with CyranoDeBergerac, I wouldn't string her along and play word games with her. What goes around comes around. If you found out a girl was stringing you along you would next her in a second right?

If you're getting laid and action from other girls, just cut this one loose. Another reason to next her would be her excess baggage. Screw that.
 
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