Next move HB9?

[Induced Drag]

My fello DJs. I'm confused about what my next step should be with a woman. Here's the backstory. Was introduced to a HB9 about seven months ago. We talked on the phone, laughed and got along very well. She always initiated contact and would often text me after I ended our phone calls trying to start another conversation. We met, I kept it short and I believe our date went pretty well. Unfortunately a week or two later I met my first and only oneitis and started to ignore HB9. HB9 lived out of state btw. If she was local I would have probably made more of an effort with her. Back on track; I continued to get the occasional text from HB9 during my oneitis time. One of her texts says she missed me. At this time I was still wrapped around the axel with my oneitis so I didn't reply. Fast forward to around March. I leave a voicemail for HB9 saying we should have dinner. She texts me back later that day saying she got my message but is with her mom in Virginia Beach. There was no counter offer of let's do it another time, etc. Fast forward a month and a half to now. I texted her Thursday asking for some info about training. She replied to me immediately. Instead of getting right back to her I respond to her the next day (Thursday 15th) and in my text added, "let's get together and catch up". She didn't reply to my text that day or the next which is unlike her. I thought she may have been out of the country and not gotten my text. I didn't send another text btw. However, yesterday I received an email from her sent from her iPhone with the info I asked about. There was no added comment of yeah that sounds great, when were you thinking of coming in, etc.

She's a hottie and I'm sure she's used to guys falling all over her which I'm not doing. I'm not pursuing her very much as I'm slowly becoming indifferent towards women. I'll admit I'd like to throw her a bang but I'm not going to play by her rules.

So what do you think? Is she playing some game with me? Is this what's known as a sh*t test? Or is this simply low interest on her part? Should I have called her instead of sending her a text? So now I'm left with what my next move should be. I haven't responded to her email because she didn't answer my text. Even though I realize she may have already answered me in woman speak. Perhaps she wants me to make it a "date" instead of a get together? I'm still green and learning hence all of my questions. I'm open to your suggestions one of which is always NEXT.

 

[bigneil]

As soon as I read "was introduced" and "7 months ago" I stopped there.

Guys, when you meet a girl, a timer starts. It's the "Sh|t or get off the Pot" timer. She must feel a strong attraction when you meet. Then, over the next 2 months, her feelings for you must grow and blossom. It sounds like OP might have passed both of those checkpoints.

However, by the 2 month mark, if you don't establish romance (ideally having had sex) you must find another woman. It's over. Because in her mind some man will sweep her off her feet, and you didn't do it during the reasonable amount of time. Women only have 20 years of childbearing. They can't waste 5% waiting for someone. Your only hope would be to show up in person (regularly) and have strong chemistry. Then it would become "romantic" that you were kept apart, but only physical presence can establish that.

Work on improving your diet, getting one hour of sun with no sunscreen (which is toxic), and riding your bike. Then work on meeting more women. You shouldn't need to be introduced.

 

[Induced Drag]

Thanks for the input bigneil. Why was she still contacting me and sending me pictures of herself only a short time ago? Is she nuts? I know, it's a rhetorical question.



Anyone else care to share their thoughts?

 

[Don-Kong]

She's had a thing for you for a while but you blew her out, rejected her. She must have sensed you weren't that bothered. This is good, made you look more desirable!

Who knows what's going on with her now. Maybe she wants to be cautious. Maybe she was infatuated last time, who knows? Wouldn't read too much into it.

Still reckon you've got a good chance with her though. I've witnessed this loads if times, initial meets, people go out of orbit, then circumstances change and sh1t goes down.

 

[Induced Drag]

Thanks for your insight Don-Kong.

So if you were me would you not respond to her? What initially pops up in my post AFC mind is do nothing and let her come to me.

What do you recommend I do?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

She's interested, but she's not going to show as much interest in you now, because as Don-Kong mentioned in her mind you rejected her already by simply being indifferent when she was putting the press on you.

Also if your going to initiate a text with a girl and she responds back that day, don't do the whole "I'm too busy" to text her back, it makes it obvious that your playing a game, which is never good.

The game is always going on, but it has to seem like its not, does that make sense?

Your problem is your trying to protect your ego, it doesn't want to get bruised.

You need to send more time recreating the attraction and interest that she had for you 7 months ago. You can't just jump back into her life and expect her to be ready and waiting to hang out with you.

Women are like cats, you need to give them attention, but just enough to make them want more. If you offer it without a challenge, chances are they will laugh in amusement and not move an inch.







PIMP

 

[Induced Drag]

Thanks Pimp-sicle. Good point about texting.

Do you have any ideas as to how to go about recreating attraction in her?

We're in the same field but live in different cities. My options, as I see them, are call, text, email or send her something on FB. Should I just give her a call in a week or so? Or is that afc of me?

I haven't responded to her.

 

[Induced Drag]

Here's something new guys.

Still no reply from her. I decided to take Pimp-sicle's advice about recreating attraction so I checked her FB hoping to get some intel. Yeah, we're friends on that thing. Low and behold, she has added a relationship status to her profile. The strange thing about this is she doesn't say she is or isn't in a relationship. It only has a small box you can click on saying ASK. This wasn't on there as of two days ago. Is this a coincidence? My gut says it's not.

What do you guys make of this? My instincts says she want's me to click the ASK button. I don't think women in their 30s post FB relationship status unless they're in an actual relationship or possibly to play games with someone.

*edit: I see that's something new FB has introduced. So she may have not done it intentionally.

 

[compleks]

Just call her and ask her out.
If she says no, then so be it. She lives in another city, so I wouldn't invest a great deal of time here.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Here's something new guys.

Still no reply from her. I decided to take Pimp-sicle's advice about recreating attraction so I checked her FB hoping to get some intel. Yeah, we're friends on that thing. Low and behold, she has added a relationship status to her profile. The strange thing about this is she doesn't say she is or isn't in a relationship. It only has a small box you can click on saying ASK. This wasn't on there as of two days ago. Is this a coincidence? My gut says it's not.

What do you guys make of this? My instincts says she want's me to click the ASK button. I don't think women in their 30s post FB relationship status unless they're in an actual relationship or possibly to play games with someone.

*edit: I see that's something new FB has introduced. So she may have not done it intentionally.

F*ck FB. One of the best things I have ever done is distance myself from that website, let alone, NEVER 'adding' girls I am interested in.

As compleks has said, just ask her out an get it done with, whatever the result. You're wasting time umm-ing and ahh-ing about what she feels, if her status is valid, if her status is a reflection of her age..... geez man, with due respect, this is how women are supposed to think.

Crack on son and let us know how it goes.