"Next" and a feeling of liberation

[Big Pappy]

I'm just a bit curious and would appreciate some feedback.

Status with girl : Just friends
Desired status with girl: just friends
Current status with girl: Pissed off!


Behavior in question: repeated tardiness, calling off plans
Previous behaviors: always on time, or would call asap and report delay and reason for delay.

Her relationship status: Ever since she met this "guy" and became engaged, (all that happened in OCS) she has been late for everything.

Circumstances: She's been in OCS since late July. I've seen her maybe twice since then. I was the communications guy. She would write me and I would spread the word, keeping everybody in the loop.
Called me out on a Sunday night to catch up on our lives at 8:00 pm.
I showed up at 8:00, ordered and drank a beer. At 8:15, I paid my check and left. At 8:24, she called and wanted to know where I was. I told her I was on my way home.
She said that she was there, I should turn around and come back. I told her that she should enjoy herself and I hung up.

Now, I just feel...exhilirated. I feel like this giant weight has dropped off my shoulders. I was a really good friend to this girl, maybe because I really wasn't attracted to her.

Is this normal? Or am I a schmuck for making friends with this girl in the first place? How long am I supposed to wait? She had a cell phone, I had a cell phone. Simple solution is for her to call.

Would you guys have turned around and gone back?
Shouldn't a DJ be on time?

I'm just curious as to how some of you guys handle tardiness from your friends, not your "women".

 

[Austin Allegro]

I handle it in much the same way, although I wouldn't 'next' a friend, if they constantly break arrangements to meet I tend to let things drift.

There are only so many friends you can have and I think it is best to go with this as a kind of natural 'culling' process.

 

[bp1974]

As this is just a friend I guess the question is how important is her friendship to you? If it's important, you should take the risk of telling her that you don't like her showing up late and cancelling all the time, that's why you got p*ssed off and left.

I have a very good friend (guy) who is rubbish at being anywhere on time. It p*sses me off, and I've told him several times I don't like to be kept waiting so long. So now he tries hard to be on time. Sometimes he makes it, sometimes he doesn't, but I'm not so p*ssed off because I know he's making the effort. Telling him I was p*ssed off was much better than just being p*ssed off and keeping it to myself.

[Edit]: Test: pissed. Ok, guess I don't need those stars after all.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

did u tel her in the past that you were pissed or were u keeping it to yourself and now she is surprised by your demanor - 20 mins late is not excruciatingly late. looks like your anger was building up for some time - in the future have her pick u up - never go anywhere to meet - tardy busy people never give a **** about other peoples time - its all about them. dont stop what you are doing at home until she arrives and rings your doorbell!

 

[chlywly]

I assume you didn't just ditch her being a prissy like prick, I'ld like to assume that you've brought this up to her before? About her being late and brushing off plans all the time?... If not then DO SO!

Talk to her about it and tell her you're very annoyed and until she cleans up the act you don't want to chill with her, because she has a lack of respect for your time.

 

[Big Pappy]

I must have been angrier than I thought. It never even occurred to me to discuss it with her.

Thanks very much.