"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Newsflash - YOU are NOT the PRIZE, and the best women DONT want you!!

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oh, let me explain first before you kill me.


If you are sitting on your ass, and doing absolutely nothing but reading material, you are STILL a loser

If you are putting thoughts in your head such as "I am THE prize, I am the best guy in the world and every girl should want me", but then you are broke, aren't good looking, and are weird/awkward when it comes to socializing, you are STILL a loser


you cannot just sit there and do nothing and think I AM THE PRIZE and expect success!!!! the only thing that will lead to is every single girl rejecting you, except you will say to yourself "oh she wasnt worthy, she was an attention wh0re, she was a b1tch, not worth my time" - when REALLY, u wanted to date her, u wanted to see her, u wanted to fcuk her, u wanted EVERYTHIGN with her, but because she rejected u, u try to justify your own loser-ness by saying "but but but I AM THE PRIZE, so she sucks, not me, but HER"



NEWSFLASH - guys who truly really are the prize, they almost never get rejected by girls. The guys that are the prize, those are the guys that the girl who flaked on you is f8cking right now..........he is the prize, she ditched you becase you are NOT the prize and HE IS. He may be sexual, he may be hot, he may have alot of $$, he may be very popular, he may be a great athlete......whatever he is though, HE IS THE PRIZE. YOU ARE THE LOSER, YOU sit there telling yourself that you are the prize when really you have nothing going for you except for the fact that you think like a girl - you worry about calling, u worry about flaking, u worry about what people think about you if u go out in public and cold approach a girl. You CANNOT TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE A PRIZE IF REALLY YOU ARE NOT!!!!



If you still face countless rejection from girls, trust me, the girls are NOT the problem, because the guys who are the prize are getting those girls who ditch u every single day -why else would she ditch u??? u think the "attention wh0re" sits there and does nothing with her life??? NO!!! she is F.U.C.K.I.N.G the guy who is THE PRIZE, while 10 other losers sit there on their lonely asses and call her an attention wh0re for flaking on them


DO NOT JUST THINK YOU ARE THE PRIZE, BUT ACTUALLY BECOME THE PRIZE

tough love hurts huh?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This was a pleasant read.
 

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Luke Skywalker said:
Ok you've explained, now can we kill you?

you are a 31 year old virgin who wont even try to **** any girl cuz your mom doesnt let u

this post is for YOU more than anything, wtf man
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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my question to you is this ; why do you care what people think of themselves? Most us are not CEOs, professional athletes, or bonifide ladies men, but how does this affect you? Do you like dislike reading some of the drivel being posted here? I know I also dislike reading these, but find some posters to have great merit. I see nothing wrong with advocating hard work to improve ones worth as perceived by women or ones own self.
 

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synergy1 said:
my question to you is this ; why do you care what people think of themselves? Most us are not CEOs, professional athletes, or bonifide ladies men, but how does this affect you? Do you like dislike reading some of the drivel being posted here? I know I also dislike reading these, but find some posters to have great merit. I see nothing wrong with advocating hard work to improve ones worth as perceived by women or ones own self.

do u really think ANYONE cares about ANYONE else?

im just posting to make a point

i see way too many guys here posting asking why girls act gay on them, and this is the answer
 

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I agree with ya. You have to improve yourself on your path to trying to get more girls or A girl for that matter.

Most of the stuff talked about on this site are just the icing on the cake or give you that slight edge BUT without the actual cake you got nothing.
 

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Nice post Toughlove, there will be lots of people that will probably hate you for writing that, hahah. The truth hurts and it is as simple as that. But I think people will realise if they are the prize or not for example...

You have girls chasing you

People respect you, and want to be around you

etc, etc


I agree 100 percent with you though. :up:
 

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that's a pretty negative mindset.... and it won't help.

you gotta work to make yourself the prize if you are actually a loser
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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ToughLove, I'm not gonna bother to refute it all point by point, but almost everything you posted is wrong.
 

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ToughLove said:
do u really think ANYONE cares about ANYONE else?

im just posting to make a point

i see way too many guys here posting asking why girls act gay on them, and this is the answer
Valid point.

A lot of individuals read stuff on here, than simply parrot what they hear. They emulate something they do not understand, than wonder why they fail. I'd go as far to say if any of us were always "the prize" throughout our lives, most of us would not be posting here.
 

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Wrong. It's possible to be the Prize but still fail with women because you don't realize how great you are.
 

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Obsidian said:
Wrong. It's possible to be the Prize but still fail with women because you don't realize how great you are.
You know what, I have to agree with this also.

A big problem for a lot of people is them not realizing that, yeah they are great people!

While people like very simalar to yourself are out having fun and getting girls, you're not because of your attitude or confidence or the way you view yourself.
 

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Ok... then both points are valid. The prize mentality alone means nothing if you are still a loser. Being a prize means nothing if you don't have the mentaliy and show how great you are.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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ToughLove said:
you are a 31 year old virgin who wont even try to **** any girl cuz your mom doesnt let u

this post is for YOU more than anything, wtf man
My mom's the prize and dont you forget that. Any woman in my life is subject to my mom's laws.
 

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BE the Prize is not enough to get the women...if you are ONLY the prize youre still a loser.

cheers
 

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U HURT MY FEELINGS MISTER TOUGH LOVE BUT I WILL SEE YOUR POST AND RAISE YOU AN APPLAUD!!!!! bravo
 

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Not caring what other people think about you, is being the prize.

Going out of your way to critique other people, just for the hell of it, is not being the prize.
 

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ToughLove said:
If you are sitting on your ass, and doing absolutely nothing but reading material, you are STILL a loser
I am at work!...is this my boss?

TY for the :kick:

Loser Out!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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