"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I had a girlfriend for a year + and we just had a bitter, bitter evil breakup... the worst of my life. I need to move on but I am so angry at all the crap that I found out about... lieing, cheating, hotels with other guys, finding out her kid had down syndrome (never told me).

She went back to her ex who cheated on her, lied to her and made up **** and said that she "will love him unconditionally no matter what he does..." what a stupid beyatch.

So yeah I am knocked against the wall right now... I am emotionally drained but I need some help/advice for moving on... what the hell does a man do? This was no normal breakup by any means.

Helllpp..... :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sorry to hear about the breakup. Some are worse than others.

First of all, make sure you cut all contact with her. If she happens to phone you or email you, don't respond. If she wants some of her 5hit back, mail it to her.

Now, you need some fun. Take a day and do the 5hit you want to. Go see a movie, play some arcade, swimming, anything you enjoy.

Also, it's time for some change! So you kicked the b1tch out of your life. Why stop there for change? Make a change to your appearance. Go out and get a new hairstyle, a new piercing, some new clothes, whatever you like. You're on a new path, so why not feel like you are?

Now that you have lots of free time, pick up the hobbies and passions that you dropped for her. If you didn't drop any, put some more time and effort into them.

Now, to make sure you're on a new path, let's kickstart your new single life by rebounding. Find some chick and date her for a few days. You need to vent, so use her as a listening ear. It doesn't matter what she looks like, just as long as she can listen to you b1tch! After you're fed up with her, ditch her.

By now, you've taken many steps back into bachelorhood. Get back into your dating routine, and don't forget about your hobbies and goals! Those need lots of attention. Your passions will always be a part of you, so don't let them go!

Good luck, and welcome back to your world.
 

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Man that was a great post and I really needed that. Even though I kind of knew it already it was good to hear someone else say it.

This is been a rough part of my life. I recently stopped drinking alcohol (35 days sober), broke up with my girl and now I need to figure out what the hell I'm doing with myself. I feel like I'm starting over.

Things I want/need to do....
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- Get my ass in the gym 3-5 days a week
- Sell my cars (truck and old mustang). Get new one!
- Get a new part time job (been looking anyways)
- Put some time into my business I started
- I need a new look. Not sure what though.
- I want to remodel my pad a bit... kind of getting old.
- Throw out al the useless crap I have in my closets
- Concentrate on a few hobbies instead of many... scuba diving and snowboarding... and maybe guitar.


... that should be a good start. I don't really need a woman to vent. I've already annoyed the **** out of my friends with everything. Haha. I need a date though with a good looking girl. That will help ease the pain.

Any more advice???
 
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