"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I had a girlfriend for a year + and we just had a bitter, bitter evil breakup... the worst of my life. I need to move on but I am so angry at all the crap that I found out about... lieing, cheating, hotels with other guys, finding out her kid had down syndrome (never told me).

She went back to her ex who cheated on her, lied to her and made up **** and said that she "will love him unconditionally no matter what he does..." what a stupid beyatch.

So yeah I am knocked against the wall right now... I am emotionally drained but I need some help/advice for moving on... what the hell does a man do? This was no normal breakup by any means.

Helllpp..... :)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sorry to hear about the breakup. Some are worse than others.

First of all, make sure you cut all contact with her. If she happens to phone you or email you, don't respond. If she wants some of her 5hit back, mail it to her.

Now, you need some fun. Take a day and do the 5hit you want to. Go see a movie, play some arcade, swimming, anything you enjoy.

Also, it's time for some change! So you kicked the b1tch out of your life. Why stop there for change? Make a change to your appearance. Go out and get a new hairstyle, a new piercing, some new clothes, whatever you like. You're on a new path, so why not feel like you are?

Now that you have lots of free time, pick up the hobbies and passions that you dropped for her. If you didn't drop any, put some more time and effort into them.

Now, to make sure you're on a new path, let's kickstart your new single life by rebounding. Find some chick and date her for a few days. You need to vent, so use her as a listening ear. It doesn't matter what she looks like, just as long as she can listen to you b1tch! After you're fed up with her, ditch her.

By now, you've taken many steps back into bachelorhood. Get back into your dating routine, and don't forget about your hobbies and goals! Those need lots of attention. Your passions will always be a part of you, so don't let them go!

Good luck, and welcome back to your world.
 

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Man that was a great post and I really needed that. Even though I kind of knew it already it was good to hear someone else say it.

This is been a rough part of my life. I recently stopped drinking alcohol (35 days sober), broke up with my girl and now I need to figure out what the hell I'm doing with myself. I feel like I'm starting over.

Things I want/need to do....
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- Get my ass in the gym 3-5 days a week
- Sell my cars (truck and old mustang). Get new one!
- Get a new part time job (been looking anyways)
- Put some time into my business I started
- I need a new look. Not sure what though.
- I want to remodel my pad a bit... kind of getting old.
- Throw out al the useless crap I have in my closets
- Concentrate on a few hobbies instead of many... scuba diving and snowboarding... and maybe guitar.


... that should be a good start. I don't really need a woman to vent. I've already annoyed the **** out of my friends with everything. Haha. I need a date though with a good looking girl. That will help ease the pain.

Any more advice???
 
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