"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Newbies-the answer you've been looking for

tristan22

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Newbies without game are making a big mistake by not approaching lots of girls. You guys approach 1 or 2 girls, obsess over the girl, and then get rejected! Then your mental state is bad and your confidence hits an all time low. You start questioning your self-worth and you end up overanalyzing every other action in every situation.

This is the best tip on here, because you aren't going to fail everytime! You may get rejected 10 times, but eventually your going to strike gold! I'm not going to lie to you, the first few rejections will sting, but look at the bigger picture. Eventually, the rejections will no longer hurt and your confidence will be through the roof! It's a win-win situation, so start approaching!

Based on the questions and topics being started the last 6 months or so, it's apparent most of you aren't putting any effort in bettering your dating life. Time doesn't wait for no one! If you don't act fast, your going to be like the 50 year old virgins who post personals online looking for their soulmate!

Time is ticking!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Jariel

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I know a lot of guys here promote approaching as the key to success, but I disagree. I mean, what if there is a reason these guys keep getting rejected? Let's say they look bad, can't hold a conversation or have no self-confidence. This isn't going to magically repair itself after 10 or even 1000 approaches. Instead, they need to take care of these issues first and foremost and then think about approaching.

Approaching regularly might be good for overcoming anxiety and fear of rejection, but these aren't the only problems AFCs are faced with. Even if they are successful with their approaches, most of these guys are too nervous, wussy or boring to even handle it.

I do strongly believe in taking action, but I believe the process of making a man out of an AFC requires a lot more time and groundwork than random approaching.
 

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Originally posted by Jariel
I do strongly believe in taking action, but I believe the process of making a man out of an AFC requires a lot more time and groundwork than random approaching.
Except they don't even do that.

The problem has to be more fundamental than what these guys do, since they're not doing anything at all.

They probably just don't want it enough ... but why? :confused:
 

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Then don't follow my advice! When i didn't approach i had "0" girls, now i can't even keep track! It's obvious a lot of you want to overcomplicate the task of picking up girls! You spend your time here making up excuses for the people who don't get laid and you want others to believe it's nuclear science when it comes to talking to females and being socially competent!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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