When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
all this is true. i have recently discovered that it IS a life change. you can do this half assed. you have to go out there with your balls in your hand and make something happen. took me 20 years to figure it out. but now. now i feel like i can do anything. with anyone. once you get to this stage. then the REAL improvements can begin.Altair said:Honestly, the first thing I would advise you to do would be to get the right mindset. You can practice techniques and bull**** all you want but your perspective on LIFE needs to change to make any of that count. You do not want to become some empty shell that only knows routines.
Now, you did say you've been working on talking to women for a while but that's not enough information for us to know where you're at, mentally. So I have no idea if my first paragraph was accurate (Do you put women on pedestals? Are you still trying to 'buy' their love? Are you letting them get away with screwing with you? etc) Anyway, go read "The Book of Pook", it can't hurt