Newbie Question

[The_Roach]

Hello All,

I read the rational male in the last month and I have been using that as a guide to putting myself on a pedestal and living a good life. I am new still and still learning to walk before I run.

I have a situation I wanted to ask you senior guys in the game about. I just started doing two a day work outs. One work out in the morning and one in the evening. My first day back at the 6am workout I met a girl. I thought she was cute but did not give much attention other then " Hey I am....."... "I like you nikes" Then I joke with the other girl about us both liking Wu tang clan and clubbing.

So I ask my trainer about the girl I like to get a bit of information but........

he text her saying hey what did you think of "D?"....

She responds " I like his energy and he is funny"

Then he tells her " I am admirer of her"

Her response is that is flattering

Did he **** me? How would you guys handle this?

 

[The_Roach]

did it behind my back. but sent me the text screen shots. He is 2 years younger than me

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

The lesson here is keep your thoughts to yourself. By mentioning it to other dude you let information out that he was loose with and used to your detriment (it has eroded any frame & made you look like the thirsty new guy, whether he intended to do that or not doesn't matter.)

Of course you don't know the guy, right, so he took the liberty of making you look foolish. You have no real option now except to ask her out unapologeticly or blow her off. This guy passing on what you shared hasn't done you any favors.

But if you want to fit into the culture at that gym, never mention this incident again. Take your lump on this one and learn.

Know that whenever you are moving into new social circles you don't know the dynamics. Ease in and observe and keep what you observe to yourself. That way you can learn things and listen to what people tell you. If you talk, talk about yourself & ask questions about whoever you are talking to. Never talk about a 3rd person unless you want everything to go straight back to them...as in this case.

 

[The_Roach]

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I personally wouldn't be asking the trainer to text her asking her what she thinks of me. Its like in grade school when a girl asks her friend to ask you if you like her.

All you can do is talk to her and ask her out. You gotta just do it my man.

i didn't ask him to text her he just did it himself