newbie question #318478413271432809

[untouchable_1]

how do you deal with a girl saying stuff like "you just want to pick me up/**** me"

i have read some threads on this before but havent really seen a good answer.

i was dancing and talking with this girl the other night and she kept saying that is all i wanted to do, she was laughing and joking around but i still couldnt get anywhere. even though it was only the second time i had ever gone out clubbing and have never brought a girl home from a bar, she would not believe me, and seemed to assume i was a player or something, which i thought was retarded and hilarious. i joked about it and acted like i didn't care, i was also honest about what i wanted and joked ****ing her etc.

she was older than me, and there with her friends, which are the only reasons i can think of for her not putting out.

girls barely ever go to the club alone though, and i have seen lots of posts about how being thought of as a player is a good thing, so what am i doing wrong? how important is age to most girls? should i just lie about it or not tell them?

once you have opened a girl, got her by herself, talking and dancing with you, what a lot of people seem to think is the hard part(it's not hard at all, i can't believe how easy this **** is), what do you guys do to seal the deal?

 

[ready123]

as long as you don't buy into her reality that you NEED something from her, you're fine. you can do anything from ignore it to joke about it sarcastically to whatever

and being socially proofed is good, but having a player reputation can hurt you if it implies you can't be trusted. it's gonna turn you into a flake magnet

and if you got isolation, figure out what kind of close you want, and escalate to it, calibrating the escalation with her comfort level

 

[MotownMack]

If she is playfully acknowledging that she thinks you want her, it's a good thing-but it's also part of a combination sh1t test to see how you react in this case.

One of the common tactics in this situation is disqualifying and is ideal for club type pickups, or anywhere a girl is "expecting" to be hit on.. Throw in a disqualifier combined with c/f will usually do the trick-so she's knows you're kidding, but also knows your confident, and left her questioning whether or not you really care what she thinks of you.

For example, saying to the target in a some kind of joking manner "Oh, you and I would sooo not get along.."

In your case, you could say something like:

Her: You just wanna pick me up.
You: Hey,not so fast... I've got to meet with some other applicants before I can reach a decision. I'm pulling for you, though.

There are a million things you could say-bottom line. Don't panic. She's flirting, playfully dismiss her inquiry and flirt back.