Newbie.. need help reading IL at bar

[John Juan]

Disclaimer: I've always been really bad at guaging IL. So there I was last night at a bar with friends. Noticed this 7 borderline 8 looking my direction when she wasn't chatting with her friend. This is what I didn't get. She'd be checking me out, I'd notice, smile at her, we look at each other for a second more, then she'd look away. This pattern continued at least another 5 times. I'd think that her IL would be high if it wasn't for the fact that she didn't return the smile once. She also had a ring on her left hand (as if committed). After leaving the bar without making an approach, I felt @#$tty. Why would she look at me so much if she wasn't interested, right? Maybe shy? I should have gone over and talked to her. At any rate, for next time I think I need help with a simple cold approach so that I have some confidence. I was unsure how to break in while she's talking to her friend. When's the best time to make the move? When she'd stop to check me out? And should I care if she's got a ring on her wedding finger? Do some chicks do that to garnish more attention? Thx.

-JLC

 

[drixsa]

You looked at each other 5 times and you didnt approach?

there isnt a good enough reason for that

jus go over and talk to her. Simple.

if the convo goes decently, she is payin attension to you,and she doesnt give off any weird vibes then take it to the next level.

 

[Kodiac]

Yeah, whats the go with rings on the left hand

Guess ill do a google search...

 

[SamePendo]

Knowing if someone is interested:
Smiles (in conversation), looks at you, looks into your eyes.

Even more interested:
She asks questions to you, EXCEPT, when she asks:
¨Why dont you go and f*cking rott in bloody hell?"

Anyway, if you arent sure if she's into you or not, ALWAYS assume she is ok? Hesitation isnt masturbation, hesitation is bull**it. Its always on!
Approach, say hi, and number close.

 

[Iceberg]

Here's some advice about reading IL....Don't do it.

You can spend all night trying to figure out if she's crossing her legs a certain way, if she taps her finger on the bar does that mean she's interested, if she sneezes is that because she hates you...the fact is you never know.

You're old enough to be at a bar, then you're too old to worry about "picking up signals." If you have women checking you out, then you must be a good looking guy. Don't waste your good looks sitting at a bar waiting for a chick to give you signals.

A girl could like you right off the bat (i.e. giving you signals), you could win a girl over (with your charm and personality), or sometimes a girl just plain won't like you. Read the DJ bible and learn that it doesn't matter what she thinks, it matter what you think of yourself.

The best time to make your move is whenever you feel like it. But specifically if her friend gets up to go to the bathroom, or if they're both sitting there quietly doing nothing.

 

[One on One]

Don't worry about reading IL, especially not in a bar. She doesn't know who you are so she has nothing to go on. If you think she has high IL, then that only means she thinks you're hot. She knows nothing of your personality. Go up and talk to her. Say something that isn't sleazy and you're already ahead of 90% of the guys in there.