"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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New Year's Resolutions

CableLight

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Blech, studying is over-rated. Unless you've got a class that consistently wants you to hand in homework, don't bother. Study for tests and you'll be fine. Hell, this last semester I used $300 worth of books a grand total of two times. Notes do the dirty work.

As I-am said, get smarter. Watch the Discovery Channel sometimes; read a newspaper. You might be surprised (or at least I was) about how many things you can read about in the news or in historic news will be taught in a class. There's no better feeling than sitting in a classroom, have the instructor say "Today we're going to cover ... " and remember having read/watched something about the topic beforehand. It's like being steps upon steps ahead of what you should know.

Uhm...Knowledge is power...? 'Kay.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Juggalo

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Some of mine:

1. Lose my gut and gain some muscle.
2. Make new friends. (Guys and Girls)
3. Get A Job
4. Get A Car (I have my license :( )
5. Become more laid back

I'm sure I'll think of some more, but those are all I can think of at the moment.
 

lbfan1638

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My Resolutions

1. Get a six-pack
2. Meet more people
3. Get more chicks
4. Keep my 4.0 gpa
5. Stop procrastinating
6. Find a job
7. Live for the moment
 

i am me

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1. Lift weights 2/3 times a week
2. Get a 4.0 GPA (when the 2nd semester starts...I think my 1st semester grades can't change much...)
3. Flirt with some hot girls
4. Get a hot girlfriend
5. Just stay happy as much as I can
 

The Monkey

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1. Read worthless tech articles way less
2. Find things to do other than surf the internet
3. Read my Bible more diligently
4. Learn to play the Guitar
5. Get my web development business up and running
6. Stay busy doing important things, instead of wasting a lot of time

- Monkey
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sosofresh

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I plan to

1. Go to church more often
2. Instead of giving 75% in school, give 150%
3. Become a monster in baseball
4. Getting permit (at least) and license
5. Reading more
6. Pick up my old hobby of drawing
7. Moving up from just smiling and saying hi to girl to talking to
them and getting numbers.
8. Overall, become a better, constantly improving MAN
 

I-am-someone

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So, almost a month has gone by... how are you guys doing with your goals?

Personally, I've had other things on my mind, but I'm pretty much still on schedule so far. Can't help but wonder how you guys are doing ;)
 

CableLight

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Still goin' strong :)
 

October

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Actually, going pretty well. Trying to meet a lot of people is tough, though. But it feels real good to accomplish something I said that I would accomplish. How about everyone else?
 

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i need to make some resolutions

I never made any resolutions so I'm making them up as I type.

1: Stay on track of the dreams I'm trying to achieve: Play guitar as a profession, make my own company and more
2: Play guitar more
3: Get back into dating and all that...I've been out of it for awhile...
4: Do a lot better in school...as in i need to get...straight b's haha
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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