"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I need to know, I need to be prepared. So I need the answer to this question. When a girl get all depress or agrevated and you made an aproach only to find out that she dont want you around and she feel like your another bad aspect of her day. How would you get around this, you know by not making her feel like your another bad segment of her day. Im not the type you would call hero playin the supporting role becuase I suck at cheering people up.

Ok Lets try another attempt to clearify the question so you would better understand my situation.

You walk up to a girl to talk to her with a smile on your face.

U: wow somthings interesting about you!
her: *turning away like unplease*
U: *tryin to please her or to make a desent respone eventho you know better to try to please a girl.- "wow are you always this depress???"
her: go away, your so agrevating.
(what-a biatch....jk ofcourse)

How are you goin to react right there, what would you say and do.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Personally, I think its hard to just let a girl sit there and look sad. Just ask her what's wrong and if she just shakes her head (which she probably will), just hug or something and say something encouraging. Then just leave...

It's not pus$yish to want to help someone out when they're down...they'll appreciate the thought (just don't become the person who she blabs on and on about her problems to)
 
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hmm I dont know. Both are good tips but I still dont know.
 

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Originally posted by i am me
It's not pus$yish to want to help someone out when they're down...they'll appreciate the thought (just don't become the person who she blabs on and on about her problems to)
Not quiet buddy.

One of the problems with these thread is that tips are always contraversed.

Well, when you go up to a girl who is in a bad move, she will talk but DONT! Because when you leave, she will think of you with the same feelings she had when you were with her. So if she was angry/sad she'll have those feelings for you the next time you see each other. This is done subconciously.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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worded were nicely whyshy!
 

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Originally posted by whyshy
Not quiet buddy.

One of the problems with these thread is that tips are always contraversed.

Well, when you go up to a girl who is in a bad move, she will talk but DONT! Because when you leave, she will think of you with the same feelings she had when you were with her. So if she was angry/sad she'll have those feelings for you the next time you see each other. This is done subconciously.
But if you made her feel a little better, she'll remember that too
 

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Originally posted by i am me
But if you made her feel a little better, she'll remember that too
Thats a big if grasshopper.
 

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Well, maybe you should be asking yourself this: Do you want to get to know someone who is depressed and sad?

If I see a girl who, physically, looks fairly good to me, but who is really sad/angry/depressed etc, then I steer clear. I don't want her baggage.
 
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Originally posted by SynapsyS
Well, maybe you should be asking yourself this: Do you want to get to know someone who is depressed and sad?

If I see a girl who, physically, looks fairly good to me, but who is really sad/angry/depressed etc, then I steer clear. I don't want her baggage.
I dont know bro. Because look if shes having a bad day becuase of a certain AFC call her a B*tch, then you could be missing out. But in the interest of future succes keep it coming. I can learn a lot from your opinions and comments.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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