"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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New trend : going on 2/3 dates with a girl and then they hit you with a long period out of town

Bigpapa

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Sending you pictures on the trip? after they come back to they message you? wanting to hang out? or are they quiet and seem disinterested when you reach out?
Only 1 came back so far, and she was warm and hinting to meet

so we went out for 2 dates, and then hits me again that she is going to visit her parents for 2 week ( she is from another country )

Before that she had a trip planned in another country

I was like wtf

on one hand she is warm, on another hand she creates a lot physical distance

so basically with this girl

2 dates in 2 weeks + 2 weeks of distance because she is traveling + 2 dates in 2 weeks + 2 weeks of distance

I also did not pass base 1 with her despite coming to my place for 2 times but always becoming anxious when coming to my place

which again puzzles me
 
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Only 1 came back so far, and she was warm and hinting to meet

so we went out for 2 dates, and then hits me again that she is going to visit her parents for 2 week ( she is from another country )

Before that she had a trip planned in another country

I was like wtf

on one hand she is warm, on another hand she creates a lot physical distance

so basically with this girl

2 dates in 2 weeks + 2 weeks of distance because she is traveling + 2 dates in 2 weeks + 2 weeks of distance

I also did not pass base 1 with her despite coming to my place for 2 times but always becoming anxious when coming to my place

which again puzzles me
This is odd, but women traveling a lot if they have the means, or from another country, is not unusual.

I would continue to game like you're doing but also spin other plates that have better logistics, i.e. time, physical closeness etc.
IMO I would match their energy and when they get back in town, and try to link up ASAP
 

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If somebody does honestly have a trip already planned and they go on a couple of dates or less with someone new, the wheels often fall off on the relationship because the “momentum” is broken.
It's OVER for LostMomentumCels.
 

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but they are warm that puzzles me

sending me pictures and stuff
They are fishing for attention. Standard stuff. The currency that gets traded is still the same. They get attention, and you get sex...hopefully. In the meantime, keep the pipeline primed and this stuff doesn't matter. It's put out or get shut out.

I'm going to say the veterans of this board don't have these problems. There's a reason and it probably has to do with you. Gotta make the vagina tingle.
 

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They are fishing for attention. Standard stuff. The currency that gets traded is still the same. They get attention, and you get sex...hopefully. In the meantime, keep the pipeline primed and this stuff doesn't matter. It's put out or get shut out.

I'm going to say the veterans of this board don't have these problems. There's a reason and it probably has to do with you. Gotta make the vagina tingle.
???

don’t really understand what you are saying has to do with what I am saying
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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