New trend : going on 2/3 dates with a girl and then they hit you with a long period out of town

[Bigpapa]

Hey guys,

it is me or there is a trend where you go out with a girl 2/3 times and then they hit you that they will be out of town for 2/3 weeks ?

initially I was like, yeah it can happen
Then I was skeptical, but apparently a good proportion of the time can be explained ( based on their social media )

it is like the 3rd girl almost in a row that hit me with this in the last 1/2 months and I am curious if this is some sort of tik tok trend or I am just a bit unlucky

they are also warm while away, so most likely it is not a sign of disinterest or thing similar

 

[zekko]

It does sound strange that you run into this so often, but it is vacation season.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

It may be a coincedence, but I definitely would not rule out a Tiktok trend, a lot of women are listening to r*earded dating advice from toxic feminists on Tiktok. Women who use that app are a huge red flag.

 

[Bigpapa]

It does sound strange that you run into this so often, but it is vacation season.

I initially thought the same, but then when it happened the 2nd and 3rd time I became to think that maybe something is up

the reason for this is that you would
Go to 1/2 dates then they will hit you that they are traveling for like 2 weeks When trying to set up the 3rd date , despite having no travel plan at the first date

so in like 1/2 weeks they would go from no travel plans in the near future, to going somewhere for like 2 weeks

and initially I also thought that maybe they are not into me actually, but they would be warm over text

But all 3 of them have something in common besides the unexpected travel plans, they all put a lot of friction in moving things forward physically and 2 of them they put a lot of resistance towards the kiss at the first date, despite seeing that they want it but at 2nd date we kissed in the first 5-10 minutes. Actually both of them initiating it

one of them even kissed me on the cheek at the first date lol

 

[Ottocinclus]

Sounds like a way to keep you in the rotation while they're trying out multiple dudes. "Out of town" would help keep you at ease that you're not still an option. But who knows.

 

[Bigpapa]

Sounds like a way to keep you in the rotation while they're trying out multiple dudes. "Out of town" would help keep you at ease that you're not still an option. But who knows.

yeah, initially thought the same

But they actually go somewhere, because they post stories on instagram

but this somewhere is usually like back to their parents home, or going hiking somewhere

Is usually a boring activity, not some proper vacation traveling

 

[Gamisch]

Whenever something like this happens there are two ways to look at it; you can say that its " women " in general. OR you can be savagely honest with yourself and discover the MAJOR flaw(S) YOU DISPLAY.

You see, when you deal with a single woman you deal with a creature who gets pulled from multiple directions. There's are multiple bulls in the ring with the same goal. Matter of fact; some women actually have a man to sleep with but yet they dont want a relationship. Even that man is pulling. Getting her p00sy but not her heart...that can also stinga

So everything matters . Everything you say, act, walk, talk, look, ect. Everything matters . Something about the way you interact might be off. Perhaps you wanna collaborate how the dates went, and especially how you interact before, between and after the dates.

 

[Bigpapa]

So everything matters . Everything you say, act, walk, talk, look, ect. Everything matters . Something about the way you interact might be off. Perhaps you wanna collaborate how the dates went, and especially how you interact before, between and after the dates.

No change in how I interact with women and in general I have good results

but this almost 3 in a row girls out of nowhere in a short period of time , got me thinking that maybe there is some sort of a trend in how to test if guy is interested or not from TikTok or similar , because I feel like they are using the same playbook

 

[Bigpapa]

Apparently it is a new trend that is getting momentum

even more friction added with this deliberate strategy. I would not be surprised the child birth rate will drop even further if this will be normalized haha

 

[Gamisch]

Apparently it is a new trend that is getting momentum

even more friction added with this deliberate strategy. I expect the child birth rate to drop even further if this will be normalized haha

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Google literally will make you find anything you look for. You have a better chance of winning the lottery than " coincidentally " dating three in a row that follow the same bs advice...cmon now!

I'd say you look at it INTROSPECTIVE and find ways to improve yourself. Analysis will be where you fing real solutions I've been here too, and it most definitely had do with MY energy ,vibe, eagerness expectations ect.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Women tend to optimize and fill up every second of their lives, while men tend to be more content with having more downtime and fewer commitments, such as staying home playing video games. Hence the reason why a lot of the older advice for men was to stay occupied, goal-oriented and busy, to prevent yourself from sitting around waiting on a woman and making her the center of your attention.

As for the main point of the post, it has happened to me before. However, it is not usually 2–3 dates in; it is more like a few months after meeting each other, when they already had plans lined up. As with everything else, if you have your hooks in them, distance can make the heart grow fonder. If it’s really early on though, I wouldn’t worry about it and would just move on with my life.

 

[plumber]

back to basics. her interest level is the key. if its across multiple cases then its a pattern. i recall you said something like this in the past months also..

take a look at a some of your photo of yourself from a year or two ago or however long it was since it felt like women come to you. compare with todays looks.

high interest will change her plans for you and or include you.

 

[Bigpapa]

back to basics. her interest level is the key. if its across multiple cases then its a pattern. i recall you said something like this in the past months also..

take a look at a some of your photo of yourself from a year or two ago or however long it was since it felt like women come to you. compare with todays looks.

high interest will change her plans for you and or include you.

Yeah, I look better now than I was a couple of years back, same with my vibe it improved in a good way

For some reason I think that there is a change in the dating behavior due to work from home setups ( still a thing ) + dating advices from social media

same as it is now with a lot of cynical women, whom even if they like you they also hate you at the same time. Some you might convert, but some you can not convert because they are too damaged in the head

and I noticed that the cynical women as years pass they become younger and younger

5 years back there would be mainly 30+ years women. Now by the time they reach 25/26 a decent proportion of women are already cynical

 

[BadBoy89]

What are you doing with these women when you go out with them? Do you sleep with them?

I don't think a girl would sleep with you on a 2nd date and then say "I'm gone for 2 weeks"

 

[MatureDJ]

Hey guys,

it is me or there is a trend where you go out with a girl 2/3 times and then they hit you that they will be out of town for 2/3 weeks ?

initially I was like, yeah it can happen
Then I was skeptical, but apparently a good proportion of the time can be explained ( based on their social media )

it is like the 3rd girl almost in a row that hit me with this in the last 1/2 months and I am curious if this is some sort of tik tok trend or I am just a bit unlucky

they are also warm while away, so most likely it is not a sign of disinterest or thing similar

It's OVER for ChickGoingAwayCels.

 

[Solomon]

Sounds like a way to keep you in the rotation while they're trying out multiple dudes. "Out of town" would help keep you at ease that you're not still an option. But who knows.

That or it's a classic "Slow Fade" which usually ends up in being "Ghosted" it allows women to not be accountable for feeling bad, and they hope OP gives up and moves on

 

[Mike32ct]

If somebody does honestly have a trip already planned and they go on a couple of dates or less with someone new, the wheels often fall off on the relationship because the “momentum” is broken.

 

[Bigpapa]

That or it's a classic "Slow Fade" which usually ends up in being "Ghosted" it allows women to not be accountable for feeling bad, and they hope OP gives up and moves on

but they are warm that puzzles me

sending me pictures and stuff

 

[Mazer]

Use this opportunity to spin other plates or add to the rotation. I used to love when my main plate went away on vacation

 

[Solomon]

but they are warm that puzzles me

sending me pictures and stuff

Sending you pictures on the trip? after they come back to they message you? wanting to hang out? or are they quiet and seem disinterested when you reach out?