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[jeffthechef]

Situation: The usual...HB8 is interested in me. 99% sure...thing is, i never got her number cause i was interested in her friend...anyways, i'm a year older and i was sure she was interested, so i decided simply to send an email to meet up with her the last day of regular school, we still ahve finals...anyways..i waited for ten minutes within the range of when i stated...she never showed and i'm pretty sure she knew where i was talking about...it's been about a day and a half and she hasn't sent an email

now, i'm not going to send an email *****ing out about how she flaked...
1 part of me believes that she is nervous and shy cause i'm older and she probably isn't experienced with guys, i think...
1 part of me believes she knows the game...she's doing that 2 day or for some several day rule where you don't respond..to build interest

so what the **** do i do....i've never had a girl do this to me...and it blows my ****ing mind...i thought she would be dying to hang out...but she won't respond to the email i sent her the morning of the last day of school...

Do I:
1. Email her, jokingly/little emotional attachment, and find out what's up.
2. Wait a few more days and then e-mail, if so how long?
3. Not do anything.

I'm guessing the right answer is number 3....but at this point, i'm past wanting her number, what i really want to know is why she hasn't responded...

 

[Analyzeit]

Well, yeah you guessed right. You know exactly what you should do.

Other then that your a year older and I'm presuming that she did e-mail back and get the e-mail then i don't see why she didn't come see you and this is the answer you really want to know, am i right??

Okay, when you think logically you said that there's a pretty good chance she's inexperienced. So she probably doesn't know much game and if she did very few girls have the guts to pull off a waiting 2 or 3 day thing. I've personally never ever seen it happen before.

You were flaked on and she hasn't even said anything.

I think that last sentence made it pretty obvious.

 

[War Against Betaism]

DON'T write a rant about her flaking, you're just going to make things worst. If you do, it shows how much she has affected you.

My one question is, did you send her an e-mail about where to meet, and she didn't reply back to you confirming that she was going to meet up with you?

 

[jeffthechef]

Thanks for the responses...
Here's a timeline:

Thursday:

1. Sent email detailing when and where.. around 6 p.m.

2. Recevied reply around 8 p.m....she asked why i wanted to meet

Friday:

1. I woke up early cause i slept a bit after sending the email (final week had lots of **** due so my sleep sched. was messed up)...sent my response, a little ****y, and then asked if she was going to be there..this was sent around 4 a.m.

2. 3:40 ish...i waited for ten minutes playing tetris on my phone heh..she never showed up..so i decided to just go...

This is the first time a girl has flaked on me...and it's driving me crazy...I KNOW she's interested...every guy knows when there's a girl that's dying to meet them...looks over at you constantly...tries to appear sexy...

but what the Fack...my friends haven't seen much/any activity of her's on facebook (i dont have one)...

perhaps she showed up late or perhaps she flaked...but part of me wonders if she did show up late and is waiting for me to email her asking why she flaked...i'm pretty damn sure she hasn't had many bf's which is making me believe she's waiting on me to make a responsive move

I'll wait for your guy's responses and a few days..perhaps until finals ends which is on wednesday this week...BUT this is what i plan to do

Wednesday night...which is 5/6 ish days after the day we were supposed to meet...i want to send a short email asking why she didnt' show up....i won't get whiny and say i was sad or mad or any of that bull****....it'll pretty much say.."Hey, where were you?"

Side question: I'm trying to develop my style to my personality...I used to dress like everyone else did...wear the same clothes from the same places...but i feel as though that's not who i am...i saw a jack johnson concert on tv recently and i like his style...it's not relaly a styel though...plain white/color shirts or shirts with simple designs with jeans or shorts or boardshorts.....but i have a feeling it'll hurt my game with the ladies..hm..

 

[Analyzeit]

Wtf jeff, wtf man.

I just didn't even read that man, you look like one of those guys that post with oneitis. A timeline. I mean honestly take a look at youself man... it sad

and with the cloths dw bout it, it really shouldn't hurt your game unless your dressing really stupid. Or unless the group you hang out with a COMPLETELY different style

 

[War Against Betaism]

You know I had a really lengthy response to your post last night, but then it got lost because of this stupid 10 post limit rule. GRRRRRRR.

When she asked why you wanted to meet her up, did she even tell you that she was going to meet you up? Maybe I'm missing something, but it sounds like she didn't even agree to meeting you up. Am I getting this right?

 

[jeffthechef]

that's a really good point...i pretty much thought it was implied that she would come....well idk anymore

i'm 99% sure she was interested..the only thing that is making me hesistnat to forget her completely is the fact that she hasn't been on facebook...and finals are on the next two days...

i'll prolly just hold things off until finals are over...and then i'll post back here...

what would your suggested action be?

 

[War Against Betaism]

I see, she didn't flake on you because she's evil or anything like that, but she is probably shy. Young girls overthink things and are often indecisive. If it's not too personal, how did you propose meeting her up? For some reason, young girls are defensive and shy away about the thought of being alone with another guy, and you really can't blame them. For young girls, I like to soften my words to make myself appear vulnerable.

If I was you, I would have first started a conversation and then eventually riddled my way into bringing up meeting up afterwards. Say like ten minutes into talking to her, I would say like "oh haha you should tell me more about it after finals. Are you gonna go straight home after finals?" Gauge an answer, and be like "We should meet up afterwards and chat for a little bit because I'll still be waiting for my friend," even if you aren't. Kind of like restraints in pick up.

It sets down her defenses and makes her more likely to comply with you. The thing I always like to remember is that women act like cats. You have to be elegant with your movements or else they won't conform to you, and they lose interest easily.

 

[jeffthechef]

man...i didnt even consider that really...i see what you mean though

i basically just asked if she wanted to meet cause i wanted to talk to her...i didn't really put it delicately or anything...i kinda just said it..

im probably just ognna send an email asking what happened after finals are over...cause during finals you basically just come for your test and leave after, at my school at least...and i'm not too sure where she is and what time she'll be at school..

 

[eaglez1177]

Where im from, its weird to just send a girl an email. Idk bout you but the way we communicate in my area is just by textin/facebook/in person. No one emails lol.

 

[jeffthechef]

i dont have texting...i dont have her number..i dont have facebook..i didn't see her in person, the whole point was to...

the email was a school network thing, the only way i could contact her..

 

[jeffthechef]

Hey guys, thanks for all the response...I think I'm going to leave this girl as a flake in my virtual files. Perhaps you're right, WAB, that she is shy and ****. But, I don't think I will give any future cases this much attention. Though, I think you are prolly right now to think of it. Maybe it would be intimidating especially since I'm about a foot taller and I have never seen her alone, there's always her same group of friends following around.