"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ok, I have never had trouble getting a date or involved in a relationship, but for the past year I decided not to date anyone. I met someone a month ago we have talked on the phone a bunch but we have both been to busy to go on a date yet because of work schedules, she seems to be really cool and I thought about sending her some flowers just so she knows I am thinking about her but I don't know if thats a good idea? What do you guys think?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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no, it's probably not a good idea. How old are you?
 

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yeah, i don't know the specific girl like you do, but i wouldn't recommend it
 

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Yea seeing that I have never been the type to buy much of anything unless it was a suprise for someone I had been dating 4awhile buying someone flowers that I have yet to go on a date with might be alittle much. Just thought it might be a way to let her know I was thinking about her seeing that with are work schedules it might be a few more weeks before I get a chance to take her out!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Already got that going on, any other ideas to keep her interested until I get off work a day!!!
 

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Flowers bad. Contact good. Force a date. Maybe even an afternoon coffee date. The weather is turning nice, ask her to play some tennis or mini golf with you. If she can't give you an hour, she isn't going go give you much more.
 

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Good idea, I have to get an hour available at the same time she does first, I am working 12-16hr a day 7days a week for a few more weeks then I will be back to a normal schedule just hate to miss out on someone that I am actually interested in which hasnt happened in awhile.
 

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relationsshiptips said:
Ok, I have never had trouble getting a date or involved in a relationship, but for the past year I decided not to date anyone. I met someone a month ago we have talked on the phone a bunch but we have both been to busy to go on a date yet because of work schedules, she seems to be really cool and I thought about sending her some flowers just so she knows I am thinking about her but I don't know if thats a good idea? What do you guys think?
In a perfect world flowers would be a very sweet surpirse, but, unfortunatly, in our world of insecurity and competition it would probably seem weird to her. You have noble intentions, but it probably would not be the proper thing to do.
 

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Just tread lightly. I was unaware that it was your schedule that took up a majority of your day, but try to act soon. Even if it is for work, waiting too long can cause her to lose interest. Most importantly dont put her on a pedistal. Just because you think she is good and you have not had any action for quite some time does not make her the only one. See what you can work out. Hopefully you can close the deal. Good luck.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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