Posted this in the mature forum also.
Ok, here's my situation. I'm 27, getting a divorce from the woman I was with for the last 6 years. I spent the last 6 months couped up in my basement playing video games and drinking alot. I am getting over everything and am ready to get back in the game. The problem is, I have no idea where to start. Within the last month I've been trying to pick up women, but it's not working so well.
I tend to think I am a decent looking guy, a bit on the bigger side, but I am working on that (lost 30 pounds in the last 3 months, would like to lose another 30-50). This is the least I've weighed in 7 years. I think dress ok. I usually go out wearing nice jeans and a decent shirt, clean shaven, close haircut (every 4 weeks), keep the unibrow taken care of, and smell nice. I just have no luck. One of my problems is, I get really nervous and can't carry on a conversation for more than a few minutes.
Basically what I need is some advice. I don't do the whole "club" scene. I like go to neighborhood bars. The bars we go to have a nice selection ladies in them, they just don't ever look at me. What can I do to change this. I have alot of confidence in myself except when it comes to talking to women.
I know if they say no, it's not a big deal, but, I still can't do it.
Ok, here's my situation. I'm 27, getting a divorce from the woman I was with for the last 6 years. I spent the last 6 months couped up in my basement playing video games and drinking alot. I am getting over everything and am ready to get back in the game. The problem is, I have no idea where to start. Within the last month I've been trying to pick up women, but it's not working so well.
I tend to think I am a decent looking guy, a bit on the bigger side, but I am working on that (lost 30 pounds in the last 3 months, would like to lose another 30-50). This is the least I've weighed in 7 years. I think dress ok. I usually go out wearing nice jeans and a decent shirt, clean shaven, close haircut (every 4 weeks), keep the unibrow taken care of, and smell nice. I just have no luck. One of my problems is, I get really nervous and can't carry on a conversation for more than a few minutes.
Basically what I need is some advice. I don't do the whole "club" scene. I like go to neighborhood bars. The bars we go to have a nice selection ladies in them, they just don't ever look at me. What can I do to change this. I have alot of confidence in myself except when it comes to talking to women.
I know if they say no, it's not a big deal, but, I still can't do it.