"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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L0bsang

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Hey people,

I am a late bloomer and eager to make up for lost time (23). I had a family problem in highschool that resulted in a family member passing away, I chose to stay home with my family and play video games. I have been in one relationship recently that I ended real quickly as it did not work out. My short term goal is just to get comfortable talking to women...at least start taking action instead of being hesitant, shy. and quiet...I hope to break that soon! I am in college now and want to take advantage of all the opportunities that I did not see before. Anyway, I will most likely be asking for advice via this forum (It is more comfortable than talking to my other buddies). Going to have a good nights rest now and am looking forward to tommarow.

Have a good one

Lobsang
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nice to meet you. Remember to just keep trying, in my opinion just getting out there is a brilliant start.
 
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