Glad I found this site. I've browsed through some of the posts and found some of the posts to be pretty damn hilarious or helpful.
Like everyone else, I need advice or tips. In my 29 years of life I've done well for myself with woman, as far as tallying up a number. I think im at 31 now...... But still haven't found what I'm looking for. I'm not happy, and despite getting laid I think I'm ready to meet someone. That is where the problem is. girls do not want you to EVER EVER tell them you like them, despite them saying otherwise. When do you tell a girl you like them? Never. Maybe after a 2 to 3 months of dating on a regular but never in the first 2 months. based on my experience. But its so much easier doing this on a girl you are semi into. In those cases you don't care if she cant hang out or cancels a few hours before a date. But when you meet a girl that you do like and want to see it can be risky when they show signs of hot/cold interest. this is where you have potential to make big mistakes. Which is what happened to me and why I found Don Juan. I was seeing this girl for a month and a half. We didn't really have exact personality matches but the sex was great. I had it going well in the beginning and I had her following my lead. I didn't respond to her texts right away, I didn't show much interest. And it WORKED! In the beginning she was giving me a few word responses or didn't show much interest. But after a few more dates and a couple of matches in bed. I tried not sending her paragraph long texts and instead only texted her a few times a day. this caused her to start sending me texts like 'I look forward to seeing you', 'so what are you looking for?' yadda yadda. then to spice it up and get her in the mood I was sending her texts like 'I want to do very bad things to you >: )' .I even had her sending me kissy faces texts before I went to bed. It was in the bag. I had it but Im sad to say I lost my balls and got caught up into it. I exposed my troops too soon and they were massacred at the little big horn. I thought she was totally into me and like a light switch it went dark. I began to tell her too much that I liked her. that I was looking forward to seeing her. And the more I did it the less she sounded enthusatic about dates. this led to a domino effect where I just tried harder. and when I saw it slipping I did it like a novice and started sending texts like "what are my chances?' and 'how do you think its going'. I felt like a total sissy. But it was a downer and I was trying to almost reason with her. Stupid. Then one night she didn't respond to me at all until 4 am when she was on her way home, I asked her if she was with someone else and that was done. She said no. We did have sex a few more times that next day. I saw some marks on her neck behind her ear like a hickey. So I'm assuming that she was with someone else. It didn't hurt me but I was disappointed. But then again after I left I was trying to win her over and sent her a text saying something along the lines of I wanted her to be my girlfriend. she came over a few days later and I could tell we were in the friend zone. she said that she wanted to keep hanging out with me, see where it went, but she couldn't have sex with me for awhile. that she wasn't sure if she was ready for a guy in her life, that she has baggage, etc. I wait till tonight to talk to her again to see if she was willing to give it another try (after a weekend of NC) and she said that she wanted to still hang out with me but that she wanted to be friends for now. I told her I couldn't be friends with her right now, I still liked her a lot, and that I wanted to give it another shot. we couldn't agree on that so I told her good luck and goodbye. the only part that sucks is that I had it but by bringing my troops out too soon I was blown to hell. There is a lot more to the story than what I said but what I took from this and why I failed is that I showed interest. Also, she was most likely seeing someone else too (which is fine) but because I showed interest like that, it pushed her away, she took what interest she had in me and put it into him. She still liked me so she was hoping to keep me on the back burner (i.e. why she said she would still like to spend time with me) to see if things worked with the other dude and if not, then I would be there.
I want this part of me that gets nexted to die a horrible death. Snake Dog (the man I want to be) is in me trying to get out and be in control. When he is, I make it happen, but then I have a sensitive side that takes over too soon. It drives me insane. But this is why I'm here.
Rise, fall down, rise again :box:
Like everyone else, I need advice or tips. In my 29 years of life I've done well for myself with woman, as far as tallying up a number. I think im at 31 now...... But still haven't found what I'm looking for. I'm not happy, and despite getting laid I think I'm ready to meet someone. That is where the problem is. girls do not want you to EVER EVER tell them you like them, despite them saying otherwise. When do you tell a girl you like them? Never. Maybe after a 2 to 3 months of dating on a regular but never in the first 2 months. based on my experience. But its so much easier doing this on a girl you are semi into. In those cases you don't care if she cant hang out or cancels a few hours before a date. But when you meet a girl that you do like and want to see it can be risky when they show signs of hot/cold interest. this is where you have potential to make big mistakes. Which is what happened to me and why I found Don Juan. I was seeing this girl for a month and a half. We didn't really have exact personality matches but the sex was great. I had it going well in the beginning and I had her following my lead. I didn't respond to her texts right away, I didn't show much interest. And it WORKED! In the beginning she was giving me a few word responses or didn't show much interest. But after a few more dates and a couple of matches in bed. I tried not sending her paragraph long texts and instead only texted her a few times a day. this caused her to start sending me texts like 'I look forward to seeing you', 'so what are you looking for?' yadda yadda. then to spice it up and get her in the mood I was sending her texts like 'I want to do very bad things to you >: )' .I even had her sending me kissy faces texts before I went to bed. It was in the bag. I had it but Im sad to say I lost my balls and got caught up into it. I exposed my troops too soon and they were massacred at the little big horn. I thought she was totally into me and like a light switch it went dark. I began to tell her too much that I liked her. that I was looking forward to seeing her. And the more I did it the less she sounded enthusatic about dates. this led to a domino effect where I just tried harder. and when I saw it slipping I did it like a novice and started sending texts like "what are my chances?' and 'how do you think its going'. I felt like a total sissy. But it was a downer and I was trying to almost reason with her. Stupid. Then one night she didn't respond to me at all until 4 am when she was on her way home, I asked her if she was with someone else and that was done. She said no. We did have sex a few more times that next day. I saw some marks on her neck behind her ear like a hickey. So I'm assuming that she was with someone else. It didn't hurt me but I was disappointed. But then again after I left I was trying to win her over and sent her a text saying something along the lines of I wanted her to be my girlfriend. she came over a few days later and I could tell we were in the friend zone. she said that she wanted to keep hanging out with me, see where it went, but she couldn't have sex with me for awhile. that she wasn't sure if she was ready for a guy in her life, that she has baggage, etc. I wait till tonight to talk to her again to see if she was willing to give it another try (after a weekend of NC) and she said that she wanted to still hang out with me but that she wanted to be friends for now. I told her I couldn't be friends with her right now, I still liked her a lot, and that I wanted to give it another shot. we couldn't agree on that so I told her good luck and goodbye. the only part that sucks is that I had it but by bringing my troops out too soon I was blown to hell. There is a lot more to the story than what I said but what I took from this and why I failed is that I showed interest. Also, she was most likely seeing someone else too (which is fine) but because I showed interest like that, it pushed her away, she took what interest she had in me and put it into him. She still liked me so she was hoping to keep me on the back burner (i.e. why she said she would still like to spend time with me) to see if things worked with the other dude and if not, then I would be there.
I want this part of me that gets nexted to die a horrible death. Snake Dog (the man I want to be) is in me trying to get out and be in control. When he is, I make it happen, but then I have a sensitive side that takes over too soon. It drives me insane. But this is why I'm here.
Rise, fall down, rise again :box:
