"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Hey guys

Im 16 and a sophomore in high school. I've been in charter schools all my life. (for those who dont know, a charter school is an expensive "prep" school which usually has alot less students than a public school, mine had 500)

Ive been following the DJ principles and I have been successful with girls at my former school.

But Im going to public school now. I know public school is WAY different than charter/private schools and that some of you guys go to public schools.

Ive never been to one, and dont have any friends that go to a public school so I dont really know what making friends, getting girls, etc, is gonna be like...

Could you guys help me out by giving me the basics of public school about making friends, geting the girls, not getting the **** kicked out of you, etc, etc
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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fantastic. u have been emancipated from private school. lucky for you, this happened to me at the same point in my life, so heres some advice, as well as questions.

1- What kind of person wud you describe yourself as? (e.g. preppy, gothic, skater, so on). Myself i was a mix between what people call a "wigger" as well as a "stoner. First, to make yourself comfortable, try to first associate with these people to get a comfortable friend base. You will move on to other people later, not to say you should ignore them.

2- Dont be that preppy private school faggot. Have a little mystery, and dont talk about your old school unless asked. At all. Ever.

3- Use the same methods, unless you got girls by talking about polo, porsches, and other rich ****. the only rich **** you can talk about is cocaine, if ur into it (but only to other coke fiegns). If not, no rich ****.

4- Dress well. When i first entered public school, i dressed like a douche, cuz i had been wearing uniforms for so long. So go buy yourself some nice clothes.

Have fun
 

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Try use the whole "new guy" thing to your advantage. A lot of girls will be interested in you since you're new. And you have to act fast, cause it's a novelty that will wear off in time.
 

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Originally posted by LesaneCrooks
1- What kind of person wud you describe yourself as? (e.g. preppy, gothic, skater, so on). Myself i was a mix between what people call a "wigger" as well as a "stoner. First, to make yourself comfortable, try to first associate with these people to get a comfortable friend base. You will move on to other people later, not to say you should ignore them.
I'd probably be in the preppy class cause thats what I've been my whole life, but being in public school, I might want to change myself a little?

3- Use the same methods, unless you got girls by talking about polo, porsches, and other rich ****. the only rich **** you can talk about is cocaine, if ur into it (but only to other coke fiegns). If not, no rich ****.
I never got girls through the "rich boy" thing, I'm not even that rich compared with most of the kids who went to my school. I have been following the DJ principles for about a year now, and they've been working great for me.

4- Dress well. When i first entered public school, i dressed like a douche, cuz i had been wearing uniforms for so long. So go buy yourself some nice clothes.
Dress well? How well should you be dresing at public school? I was thinking itd be just real casual stuff like jeans and a t-shirt or something like that...

And what about your social status at public school? How do you become known/popular? Its probably alot different than my old school...
 

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I don't have time to answer everything, but it seems like a lot of your problem is that you're catgorizing yourself as an "outcast" right from the start.

Check out the DJ bible, especially the posts about first impressions, and anything related to self-image. When you start at this school, make sure you're dressed so that you KNOW you're the sh!t. Confidence will be everything when meeting new people.

Don't get all worried over it, relax a little and try not to fall into a group that doesn't share interests with you just because they seem nice. When i moved to a new school, i was cool with all the nerdy kids because they worshipped me, and it hurt my rep a lot (this is like four or five years back). Thing is, i really didn't enjoy hanging out with them anyways because my interests were a lot different than theirs.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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By dress well he means don't dress like a slob or anything. Since you said you're on the preppy side, stores like American Eagle and Abercrombie are good.

As for making yourself known/popular, really the best way is to talk to everyone, particularly the ones you can see are popular. Be very social. Talk about normal teenage things like parties, music, movies, disliking certain classes, sports, etc. If you can get invited to a party it's a huge plus, and will make meeting people even easier. Plus, it will help assure your social status. If you know of a real big party (no invites) going on, then just go up there and mingle with people on your own. Show your sense of humor and put the moves on the girls. Playing on a sports team will help a lot too. If you aren't really into sports, join some clubs.
 

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I say he should go comando to school, and show that he is a real man, or a real idiot!:p
 

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Originally posted by wavejams007
I say he should go comando to school, and show that he is a real man, or a real idiot!:p
haha, that'd be a nice first impression on the girls :p

Originally posted by familyguyfan
By dress well he means don't dress like a slob or anything. Since you said you're on the preppy side, stores like American Eagle and Abercrombie are good.

As for making yourself known/popular, really the best way is to talk to everyone, particularly the ones you can see are popular. Be very social. Talk about normal teenage things like parties, music, movies, disliking certain classes, sports, etc. If you can get invited to a party it's a huge plus, and will make meeting people even easier. Plus, it will help assure your social status. If you know of a real big party (no invites) going on, then just go up there and mingle with people on your own. Show your sense of humor and put the moves on the girls. Playing on a sports team will help a lot too. If you aren't really into sports, join some clubs.
Well I played football and soccer at my last school, but that was a school of 500, I dont think Im good enough to make the varsity football or varsity soccer team at a school of 4000.

What about getting into fights and sh*t? My last school was a private school and there wasnt alot of fighting and/or giving ppl sh*t, but I know that theres alot more of that stuff going on at a public school.
 

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the fight thing really depends on where your goin 2 school bro. however, most likely, if u dont start **** with people you should be set. If you still get some douche who wants to fight you, then fight him, just like you normally would. Worst comes to worst, you get your ass kicked, but at least u handled it like a man. But seriously, dont worry about it, and dotn start crap.
 

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Originally posted by TOR
haha, that'd be a nice first impression on the girls :p



Well I played football and soccer at my last school, but that was a school of 500, I dont think Im good enough to make the varsity football or varsity soccer team at a school of 4000.

What about getting into fights and sh*t? My last school was a private school and there wasnt alot of fighting and/or giving ppl sh*t, but I know that theres alot more of that stuff going on at a public school.
Well, it won't hurt to try out anyways. Plus, most schools don't have tryouts for their football team. They just take everyone who signs up for it, and the best ones play in games.

And as for fights, if you live in a fairly well-off area, it shouldn't be a problem. I live in an upper-middle class area and we rarely have fights at my school (only a few a year), so it's exciting and fun when we do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah, I guess it depends on where you go to school.

Its not like Ive never gotten into a fight, Ive already gotten into one this year, it just seems like itd be greater odds against you at a public school with a whole group of kids beatin on you than a one on one fight like Ive been in.

About the tryouts-yeah, Ive always been an athletic guy so I wont pass up the opportunity to try out
 
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