"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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new to bar scene... need advice

lambo_cst

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I have been working in the hookah bar for 4 or 5 years. women were easy cause i was the person they HAD to talk to. Then i would work my game as i gave them coals. I was really good at getting women in a hookah bar scene.

But now im 21 and i got to the bars and i find it difficult to talk to women.

Its a new scene and i just feel a little uncomfy there. i love to dance and i will get out there and do it.

But latly i have been working off other guys mistakes. Ill watch every one for the first hour. notice the creepy guys, then when they start to creep out a girl i save her. its worked alot. but i had being the second man, i want to be the MAN.. lol any help advice
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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12AJ12

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If you're unfamilar with an environment I would recommend going in with alot of canned material until your comfortable enough to let your game flow naturally.
 

Nygard

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Drink vodka and get so drunk it erases your hard drive!
Or even better, get her really drunk! Nothing like following our ancestors legacy! Do you think they created alcoholic beverages just because of the burning sensation of the aftertaste? Hell no! If they wanted that they would just put hot coals in their mouths! They created it to hack the social structure with it and pull women.Alcoholic drinks are as old as humankind for a reason. they invented beer before they even invented math,
 

Bluewater7

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I think a good way to move into this scenario is go with friends who are guys AND girls who you feel comfortable around. Then you are feeling good, and can more easily "branch" from the group momentarily if you see other hot girls around - and you look cooler because you are in a group. So you and your friends get a few together and who cares if your "friend" girls aren't that hot or the ones you want... you'll all have a good time and it will give you social credibility to talk to others.
 

ENIGMA16

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Sounds like the only thing you have problems with is opening. At the hookah bar you were able to develop your game without opening because, as you said, they had to talk to you. Work on your openings and you should be set.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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