"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Mack Of All Trades

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This Site looks great! Kudos to whoever developed this site. Now, I can type in bold and use quotes. This site is MUCH more user friendly.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Mack Of All Trades
Now, I can type in bold and use quotes. This site is MUCH more user friendly.
Damn, you always could type in bold AND use quotes. Doesnt seem more user friendly to me.
 

Mack Of All Trades

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what i meant is instead of using complicated methods to do these things. It is laid out clearly on the page.
 

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damn i dont like the new site, its real bright and it hurts my eyes....i liked the old one better...
damn i dont like the new site, its real bright and it hurts my eyes....i liked the old one better...
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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misunderstood??

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Try to discuss this stuff in the suggestion and feedback forum. So this is being sent there. Any further feedback about the changes should be discussed there.
 

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I like this new forum. Well done!

Thanks Allen for a great site!!!

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