"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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New plate is scaring me

zinc4

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I have read alot of BPD posts on here, and am nearly certain one of my new plates is a BPD....we met at a Phillipino disco here where i live...i have been tearing those up lately...and she came to my apartment...had great sex 3 or 4 times and then the signs started showing...she was telling me is still in love with a married man....honestly, i didn't care because i just want her as a plate..but the first red flag of personality issues was a waving for sure...

Then when i wanted to go to sleep, i had trouble getting her out of my apartment...she wanted to stay with me and spend the entire next day at my apartment...i actually would have liked it because the sex was so damn good and she has a good sense of humor....but i just hate the process of going to sleep with someone new....i just prefer to fall asleep by myself...or unless it is with someone i am very familiar with

So anyways, it took awhile, but i got her out.....now she has been texting and calling me every morning and evening since then about 4 days ago..every day since and telling all this crazy stuff to promise her that i won't bring any other girls back to my place and i won't meet anyone else new and just acting very very possessive of me...and we just met eachother! and the morning calls are annoying....and when i don't answer she will call again and get all upset that i didn't answer...we are scheduled to meet next sunday again...she works in a factory 6 days aweek like a lot of the other phillipinos here and i am scheduled with other plates and friends most of the remainder of the week.......but i am thinking about maybe having to cut the cord on her because of her clinginess...because i have other plates who are more worthy of GF material for me and i am scared if she gets too attached she will go batsh$t crazy when i eventually drop her...

But i have to admit...i want her in my bed a few more times....her craziness is starting to turn me on kind of in a kinky sexual way...kind of like that crazy chick from the movie Wedding Crashers who goes after Vince Vaughn's character...the sex is just so good with these kind of chicks...

You guys think this is anything to be worried about?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do you just walk around the club saying "kamusta" or something? lol anyways you should be wary of filipina girls, they are masters of the game
 

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Keep her for the sex as long as possible. But if you start thinking about her a lot while she isn't with you, next her immediately and go strict NO CONTACT. You cannot allow a chick like this to get even the slightest emotional influence on you. That road is waaaay too slippery and puts your mental wellbeing at serious risk.

Also, do not compromise with her on ANYTHING, not even on the smallest issue in the world. It needs to be totally YOU in control over any aspect of the interaction. The first moment she doesn't accept that, is the moment you drop her. NO COMPROMISE, AT ALL! You should start out with explaining you're not into chatting through phone calls or texting. Phone, texting, email etc. are strictly used to set up meetings, NOTHING ELSE. If she won't accept this, next her...no compromise.

She's a psycho nutjob, probably BPD indeed. You cannot afford to allow her even the slightest emotional influence over you, or any influence over the frame whatsoever. The moment she gains this after all, walk away.

Tread carefully...
 
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i am thinking i am going to have to next her anyways...she just called me for the third time today and was talking about how she wants to cook for me in the future and then started talking about how we have to be careful together, because her on and off again boyfriend is a very jealous guy and it turns out that he knows a lot of the staff members at a disco that i frequent here...

she is already proving way more trouble than she is worth...i am debating about nexting right now or seeing one more time before nexting her for the sex
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Better do it now, then. I read your other thread... It's all too risky, you don't wanna get beat up over pvssy. If she feels used and gets angry with ya,, she might try to take revenge by telling the other dude that you tried to rape her or sh!t like that...
 

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if she has US citizenship, or nearly so, watch OUT, dude. Best to have nothing to do with any woman over whom you don't have the "club' of deportation.
 

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goundra said:
if she has US citizenship, or nearly so, watch OUT, dude. Best to have nothing to do with any woman over whom you don't have the "club' of deportation.

No, we live in Taiwan...

I dropped the hammer yesterday and she texted and called and said i ruined her life and she let me into her world and she was devastated and she said she would break up with her bf fto be with me...i said...no...that just feels weird in the first place....she was crying and hung up and then called me later i ignored...damn...i feel really mean.....i want to ap[ologize o her or something....my ego is GETTING THE BEST OF ME LATELY...

I went out last night to a Taiwanese night club and had two chicks who were "friends" competing over me....but one was a 6 and the other was a pretty hot 40 year old cougar...7.5...but they were my last scraps....or choice from the nightclub.......i had a solid 8.5 on hook, but she demanded i buy her a drink...i said...no, i only buy drinks for myself...she got all offended and her ****blocking. golddigging friend pulled her away from me...i also had a 7 who wanted to bang, but she was too skinny...so i pursued other options in failure...probably because i was too drunk...but it was fun....i then saw the two chicks who were previously competitjg over me outside the club waiting to ride home....we all talked...i was attract5ed to the younger heavier one at first and was making out with her and grabbing her friend's ass at the same time...the older one insisted to go with us to the hotel..

I was like..ok a 3 some...hell yeah...i underestimated you *****es...for some reason after the first 2 times of saying it and intial acting offended...their eyes lit up when calling them b^tches...

They said uhhh no and that they just wanted to look out for eachother...but it was nothing more than some petty competition by the older girl who i initially expressed interest in only to transition to her younger friend...

We got to the hotel room and the older one flipped out all physcho acting when i accused her of being a bi-sexual...her friend took uo for me and i git pissed at first...but her little outbreak really f&cking turned me on ...she really managed to put me in my place at one point and that was ssexy as hell....and i began to notice her nice tight ass and perfect legs...for a 40 year old she had legs of a 20 year old....i was amazed....meanwhile the younger one was drinking all of my beer and acting just stupid in general and i nopticed some flabs on her.....

This is where i lost control of myself....right after making out with the younger chick on the bed, ...i turned to the cougar and slung her on the bed beside her friend...and ripped her clothes off and slung her panties and stalkings on my head to form a mask ripping some eye holes..and started banging her and making out...the younger girl went into the bathroom and was sobbing at one point...and i am a bit ashamed to admit this, but it made the sxual act even more arousing.....i got lost in her legs and ass and *****....and alcohol...she said i was the best lover she had ever had in her 40 years....

i doubt that, because she seemed like she was all about creating the atmosphere.... but damn she was the sexiest 40 year old i have ever encountered in my life...and she was on her period...and we did 69....blood on my face...she was surpirsed i liked it at firt...with any other chick i never have actaully....but i told her i was a vampire and i was going to eat her..and i really felt like one.........normally this act would disgust me, but damn she pushyed all of my right buttons....she then gave me a hand job after i came for an hour or so while making out and the bj.....

she was really good...a much better sex partner than the younger chicks i have been banging lately....i am craving her ass and legs and sexuality right now as a itype this...she liked to push my head down into her ass while looking together in a large side mirro and back humping my face with her ass and ***** while staring in my eyes in the mirror....it was so damn sexy...

her friend was in tears the whole time in the bathroom though and finally left at the end....i told both of them they were retarded to compete with eachother like that...but regardless... i'll be banging that cougar this Sunday for sure...

and you know what? it's 2:30 in the afternoon and i haven't slept yet and i am about to hit the afternoon fillipiono day clubs up..they party during the day here becase they work 3rd shifts.....i can't help it....i am on a tear....i want as much ***** as possible .....
 
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