New Member's Thoughts

[Willie Naylor]

I'm on my way to the gym, and I wanted to share my thoughts on some things before I head out.

I've been a member here for a few days, but I've been lurking around this Red Pill stuff for a while, and there's a lot of angry bitterness in the community. There's a lot of pseudo-intellectual talk going on, and not a whole lot else. Typical 'advice' I've seen is this:

Red Pill guy: She did WHAT?!?! Man, fvck that b!tch. She's not worth it. Next her a$$.

I know plenty of married couples that are perfectly happy. I'm not a fan of throwing a blanket on every one of these Manosphere topics and saying 'this is how it always is in this situation.' I also don't believe that a man has to be as Alpha as possible every moment of his life, or else he's going to get cheated on/played/left at the altar, etc.

I've been dating a girl for 8 months. She's 28. Is she perfect? No. Do we argue sometimes? Yes.

Will she cheat on me one day? I don't know. I hope not. But if she decides that she wants to one day, there's nothing I can do to prevent it from happening.

As humans, we're supposed to Feel. We're supposed to be moved by our emotions. We're not supposed to look at a 24 year old girl and tell ourselves, 'well, she's probably a slvt, and she probably parties too much, and she might have daddy issues, so I'm just not going to bother in the first place. Whew! I dodged a bullet with that one.'

Who cares what the Red Pill community says is likely to happen if you get involved with her. She may be the exception to the "rule."

The Red Pill/Manosphere turns you into a machine. The Red Pill doesn't want you experiencing genuine emotions with other people. There's a scripted response for everything someone does. It's absurd, and extremely unhealthy.

Live life, gentlemen. Enjoy it. Stop examining everything to death. You'll have some Wins along the way, and you'll also have a few Losses.

It's supposed to be that way.

 

[Zimbabwe]

It's also stupid to end a relationship just because you've "lost the spark". No relationship will always have the spark. Settling down with someone isn't about excitement, it's about committing to someone you love and trust. This is why cheating, divorces and breakups are so common. It's like people expect to be in the honeymoon faze for the entire relationship. Long term love isn't as exciting as just meeting someone but it's a hell of a lot more meaningful and conducive to long term happiness.

How can you have this loving committed relationship and then one day start to “lose the spark”. I feel like relationships take work. Why would you just bail on something like that. I don’t get it.

 

[3AM]

Although I agree there is a lot of responses that are considered "Angry" or even childish. That being said, a lot of guys are legitimately angry because of circumstances they didn't know were going to affect their lives. They do the "Right thing" and boom we call it "Life happening", but that isn't the whole picture.

For those that are educated on topics we say it's common sense.

For others it's a blunt force object to their life. I see what you are saying Family Man, but I believe the truth is somewhere in the middle. I have been on all sides of most the coins here. I lived the red pill revelations and understood it long before I heard of this forum and the books. All that to say, a lot of it is completely valid. What I agree with is men shouldn't be going out of their way to bash the other sex. Men have many many issues as well.