New member with 2 questions

[aux187]

So I am 35 I have had a crush on one of my classmates since she got married. I saw her for the first time Nov 1st 2013 last time I saw her was 1996. I have always thought about her and she is now available, moved back to town, she still looks a solid 8(my opinion) she is getting divorced with 2 kids 16 and 14. So I saw her at a Halloween party I was sitting at a table and she came over and gave me a hug and seemed excited to see me, she was there with someone else and she probably spent 70% of the time with me, she told me she felt comfortable sitting next to me. I ended up driving her home we kissed gave her my number and did not hear from her for 2 weeks..

So Wednesday the 13th I was walking my dog and saw her brother and dad and started talking to them a few minutes later she showed up and looked surprised to see me. I said hello and I started to think great she didn't call because she did not want anything to do with me and now here I am. So she started asking me about my dog and her dad and brother walked away, So I said to myself just asked what happened, so I did and she told me that she texted me that night and the next day and that she thought I never responded because I was not impressed with her. So we exchanged numbers again and she said she had the wrong number.

So we talked a bit more and I left, next day i sent her a text she replied and i ended up at her house watching a movie, we kissed I left.

So here is the tricky part my good friend asked her out to a fundraiser and I was also invited, I was there she showed up and we started talking then she started talking to my friend which at that time I decided to leave and visit the local water hole. She texted me and asked where I was told her where and asked her if she wanted to join me and she never replied. So I decided to drive home and about the time I got home she texted me and said she was home and if I was still out the bar which I replied no, So I asked her if I could invite myself over and she said yes.

So I called my friend and asked him how things went for him that night and he told me that he took her home and they kissed and that was it. So at that time I started to second guess my self on not telling him about her and I kissing the night before and that I just had invited myself to her place. So my other head made the decision to go for it and see her we started kissing and tried removing her shirt when she told me that she did not know what she was doing and to stop because she has never had another companion besides her ex. I asked her if she was OK me kissing you and she said that she was ok with me kissing her. So we kissed and hung out longer then went home. Didn't see her yesterday but we talked and she said that I make her laugh a lot and that her dad thinks that I am such a good "kid".

I know long story..
I asked her if she took a cab home, and she replied me with something else.

1)So should I tell my friend about her and I?
2)I feel like she is trying to play both of us but my friend told that she has never invited him over to her house.
3)Should I tell her that my friend told me that he drove her home and they kissed? remember guys I have always liked this girl and I want to play it right but I will not let her **** me over.
4)I have never been involved with anyone with kids before, how do you deal with it?

I feel like I am over studying my moves because I never thought she would ever come along.

Lets hear your suggestions

 

[Bible_Belt]

I ended up driving her home we kissed ... gave her my number and did not hear from her for 2 weeks..

Strike while the iron is hot. You could have and should have fvcked her that night instead of wussing out and giving her your number. Don't ever do that, by the way. Ever.

People who have been in long relationships don't get the chance to develop their "game" with the opposite gender, so it can be like dealing with a teenager in regard to emotional maturity. You cannot take her words seriously.

A woman who will spend time alone and make out with you will also have sex with you. When she tells you 'no,' just back off for a few minutes and then try to make her hornier. Never! is not what "No" means. Not yet is a better way to think of it. The game is to get her so turned on that she has blue balls just as badly as you do.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Aux,
I would say you live in a small town,probably with solid values similar to people in small towns in Australia....
So many alarm bells here....Firstly when a Woman is first separated,in general she will go through a grieving process usually for about six months,but often far longer...then they tentatively put their toes in the Dating water...not this Girl!two fish on the line already...a fortnight gap?maybe even more?
I suspect she has been shagging around!

First,you need to do a bit of digging...In a small town,one cannot pvee on ones back fence without everyone knowing about it.....Why has she broken up?....Talk to the Brother,talk to your mate,best talk to a Woman close to her...Gossip travels fast amongst the Female Mafiosi in a Country Town ...

Treat this one as a single Mummy,there is a site dedicated here,to this topic every three weeks....without visiting this in great depth,use her for your pleasure,but be extra careful,she is looking for a steady Daddy!

 

[Greasy Pig]

I've heard (and experienced) that newly divorced/separated women are super keen to reaffirm their attractiveness by riding random c0cks for a few months.
So I'm not surprised she's entertaining at least two suitors.
Now you have to gauge how close you are to your friend. If he's a good buddy whose friendship you don't want to lose, you should either back off or - if you're determined to get her - come clean with him.
Not all the gory details but just tell him that you've had a couple of dates with her, nothing physical but you'd like to pursue her.
If he feels the same way, then that's another problem likely to ruin the friendship anyway.
If he's not a close friend, I'd definitely refrain from discussing her with him and just continue pursuing her. Bearing in mind that you know she's entertaining someone else, so don't over-commit yourself in case she pulls the rug out from underneath you with a LJBF.
I was in a similar situation which actually brought me to this site. My so-called friend was encouraging me to date this girl and saying how good we'd be together but it turned out he was fvcking her the whole time.
He's no longer my friend and I ended up boning the chick a few times after I went NC and she basically begged me to fvck her.
In closing, if she treats you like a second option, pump and dump only.