New me makes Tension between me and bro

[THEYOUNGONE]

Peep game, growing up , i was in the house, shy,scary, low self esteem,never had a girlriend, not talking to girls, ***** made to the fullest. My younger brother was the totally opposite, never was scary, more outgoing, ****y, likable by alot of people, always had bitches,popular,ect. He was the "Star" in my househould, He's never been in my shoes, like when we smoking or some i might bring on how used to be and he be looking at me crazy. Im a whole different nigga now, its like when we around each other he gets offended and take everything i say PERSONAL, and its seems to always be a competition with everything, but all this **** aint start until i came more out my shell and started talking MORE. I noticed the only time brah acts normal and neutral is when im being "Sheep" , not talking, being my old self. Any other time, when im being more out of my shell its always TENSION/HEAT and like the **** make him mad. What makes the **** crazy is all the tension,ect be coming from him. **** i be tryna kick it with my brah but he always on some heating/competition **** like im some nigga in the streets, but PEEP game once again, we only have these problems when im OUT my shell, talking, talking about bitches, and when im In my shell, being quiet, being a wallflower everythings COOL. I brung this **** to the board to try and get advice on what yall think brah problem is?
Even when he around bitches(Especially his bitches), he wont let nigga BE GREAT, he has to get all the attention, he hates if i even talk. I can easily go toe to toe with this nigga but i play the sheep in certain situations just to keep down TENSION and us from fighting, cause at the end of the day this my brother but at times this nigg dont have no mercy towards me , but i spare him alot, like one time one of his baby momma's wanted to **** me but i kept **** G and passed cause he my brother, but i know this nigga wouldn't have spared me..im more on some **** like " Lets turn up on these bitches together", no hoggin the spotlight, ya feel me.

SN: we only 1 year apart

 

[C00lAF]

English please?

 

[sazc]

sounds like he's insecure now that you've come out of your shell and gotten more confident. you can offer to 'work together' (which is great in terms of compromising, etc) but someone has to agree and accept that and it doesnt seem like he is interested in you possibly outshining him. probably better for you to go your own way, find new freinds to go out and game females, etc. especially if this is going to cause real issues between you and your brother. better to separate and keep the relationship intact.

You wont be able to change him/convince him to be okay with this new dynamic. HE has to accept the new dynamic and he isnt ready - may never will be.

 

[homie]

Just wreck that nigga.

 

[Serenity]

Brothers having a heated bond, sounds normal to me. Don't back down.

 

[El Payaso]

He's used to you being the shy one so he doesn't want you coming out of your shell. People are like a bunch of crabs in a barrel, when they see one leaving, they pull him back down because none of them want to see him rise to the top. They feel like he's going to leave him so they have to stop him from achieving.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Bruh, if he don't care about you, you don't go caring about him. Dafuq is wrong with you? It's cuz he don't have respect for you, you gotta make him respect you and stop having him walk all over you. Don't go hurting him or anything crazy like that, but if you gotta go toe to toe, you gotta do it. Then he gonna respect you more and treat you better. Plus, you two might even be able to talk to each other like one of his bros.

Do what you gotta do man.

 

[homie]

Then he gonna respect you more and treat you better

And he'll never do that otherwise, I would add

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

And he'll never do that otherwise, I would add

Exactly.

 

[AlphaNate]

If you have haters, you're doing something right.