I've finally tried out some good stuff. Still working on the personal reform but it feels real good so far. If it sounds like Californication, I just started watching the show. There is no point to this other than to share what I've learned. Which is to mostly not care about outcome and to be anything but "nice". I hate the nice guy I was.
So I'm hooking up with a "taken but taking a break" chick. She's older and hot. Easily a 9. Anyway, while I'm fvcking her she says I'll have to beg her if I want to hit that again. Without a single hesitation I retort, "begging isn't my thing". No explanation nor hint of concern that it might not be a re-occurring hookup. She's frustrated for a second and responds, "fine. I was going to end up begging you anyway".
The old me would have panicked. Now that I don't give a ****, the correct response came naturally and instantly. The entire situation is solidly in my control immediately after she tried to extort an AFC behavior.
I've been banging another chick who was a **** buddy. She got into a relationship, which she hid from me for a while. At first I flipped out. It was pathetic and destroyed her attraction for me. Then I took a different approach. I stopped being dependent on the outcome and don't treat her special. I know she finds me physically attractive but we never date because I had come off as needy at one time.
Ironically she is really starting to she signs of high interest since I "gave up" on her. Since she was seeing someone and not hooking up with me, I stopped caring if she thought I was nice. Absolutely everything she says to me i make sexual and or come off as a ****y narcissist, because why not. She's responding better than she did for months....almost like she's starting to respect me as a man. At times she'll catch herself and get quiet. If I get a one word response, I'll fill in the lacking conversation for her in the ****iest way possible, as if I know she's thinking it but won't say so. Always one liners. It works. It takes patience. It's funny to me. Anyhow, she's coming around quickly.
Another time an okay chick sits next to me at the bar. Some other guy and his friend sit on the other side of her. I don't pay much attention. I said hi or some banal comment to the girl. The other guy chats her up for a long time. He walks off for a minute in which she turns to me. I'm not interested, so I say that the other guy seemed interested and also he wouldn't shut up for 2 seconds. I've honestly never heard a human talk so much. She says "he's interesting" to which I say, "that's interesting" and go about my business. I'm not competing for an okay looking girl this night. Sir talks-a-lot comes back, obviously pissed I've been talking to this girl in his absence so I just go about my stuff again. Later as I'm leaving, this girl is still stuck with the bore and i catch intense eye contact with her the whole time I walk out. It felt good knowing I could've said anything and had her come running after me. I didn't. Probably should have just for entertainment sake. she wasn't that interesting.
Things I do differently now:
make eye contact and smile. I know it's fake most of the time. So what.
Feel comfortable in the world- my life is the most important, and sorry, everyone else is just a character in my play.
Workout. Best life choice ever. First, It keeps me happy. Second, it took 3 women saying I looked like a god with my shirt off before I started to realize I was getting so much further with chicks than EVER before just based on my body. At that point I hadn't changed anything else.
Never. Ever. Send more than 2 texts without a response. Not one shred of neediness either. Never. Really, just send one good one.
Speaking of texts. Don't say "haha" after a joke or something ****y. Laughing at your own jokes is lame in person and on the phone. It comes off as witty when you don't.
Be ****y-witty-funny. Irreverence is good. It shows you're man enough to tolerate criticism for saying things others socially shouldn't.
Women like a man with resources. It's kind of shallow and kind of natural.get some but don't give it away.
Don't care. Nothing is written in stone. Being serious or a downer is the sure way to not get what you want.
So I'm hooking up with a "taken but taking a break" chick. She's older and hot. Easily a 9. Anyway, while I'm fvcking her she says I'll have to beg her if I want to hit that again. Without a single hesitation I retort, "begging isn't my thing". No explanation nor hint of concern that it might not be a re-occurring hookup. She's frustrated for a second and responds, "fine. I was going to end up begging you anyway".
The old me would have panicked. Now that I don't give a ****, the correct response came naturally and instantly. The entire situation is solidly in my control immediately after she tried to extort an AFC behavior.
I've been banging another chick who was a **** buddy. She got into a relationship, which she hid from me for a while. At first I flipped out. It was pathetic and destroyed her attraction for me. Then I took a different approach. I stopped being dependent on the outcome and don't treat her special. I know she finds me physically attractive but we never date because I had come off as needy at one time.
Ironically she is really starting to she signs of high interest since I "gave up" on her. Since she was seeing someone and not hooking up with me, I stopped caring if she thought I was nice. Absolutely everything she says to me i make sexual and or come off as a ****y narcissist, because why not. She's responding better than she did for months....almost like she's starting to respect me as a man. At times she'll catch herself and get quiet. If I get a one word response, I'll fill in the lacking conversation for her in the ****iest way possible, as if I know she's thinking it but won't say so. Always one liners. It works. It takes patience. It's funny to me. Anyhow, she's coming around quickly.
Another time an okay chick sits next to me at the bar. Some other guy and his friend sit on the other side of her. I don't pay much attention. I said hi or some banal comment to the girl. The other guy chats her up for a long time. He walks off for a minute in which she turns to me. I'm not interested, so I say that the other guy seemed interested and also he wouldn't shut up for 2 seconds. I've honestly never heard a human talk so much. She says "he's interesting" to which I say, "that's interesting" and go about my business. I'm not competing for an okay looking girl this night. Sir talks-a-lot comes back, obviously pissed I've been talking to this girl in his absence so I just go about my stuff again. Later as I'm leaving, this girl is still stuck with the bore and i catch intense eye contact with her the whole time I walk out. It felt good knowing I could've said anything and had her come running after me. I didn't. Probably should have just for entertainment sake. she wasn't that interesting.
Things I do differently now:
make eye contact and smile. I know it's fake most of the time. So what.
Feel comfortable in the world- my life is the most important, and sorry, everyone else is just a character in my play.
Workout. Best life choice ever. First, It keeps me happy. Second, it took 3 women saying I looked like a god with my shirt off before I started to realize I was getting so much further with chicks than EVER before just based on my body. At that point I hadn't changed anything else.
Never. Ever. Send more than 2 texts without a response. Not one shred of neediness either. Never. Really, just send one good one.
Speaking of texts. Don't say "haha" after a joke or something ****y. Laughing at your own jokes is lame in person and on the phone. It comes off as witty when you don't.
Be ****y-witty-funny. Irreverence is good. It shows you're man enough to tolerate criticism for saying things others socially shouldn't.
Women like a man with resources. It's kind of shallow and kind of natural.get some but don't give it away.
Don't care. Nothing is written in stone. Being serious or a downer is the sure way to not get what you want.
