"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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alnite

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How is it going, fellow DJs? I have been having some depression in the last few weeks, not women related, just life in general and the situations I am in. Today, I have decided that I want to change it now. If I were to continue like this, I would be a fulltime loser in no time.

I need to learn some new skills to broaden my knowledge. I am going to take some random classes just to see what's out there. I have also played around with photography, art, etc., but haven't gotten too far to actually hang out with the crowds. Out of all that I have tried, none of them seem to have "clicked" on me. So, I need some new ideas what are skills that would be the most interesting, affordable, useful and are still accessible by someone living and working fulltime in the city (Los Angeles) like me.

Thanks a bunch.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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alnite said:
How is it going, fellow DJs? I have been having some depression in the last few weeks, not women related, just life in general and the situations I am in. Today, I have decided that I want to change it now. If I were to continue like this, I would be a fulltime loser in no time.

I need to learn some new skills to broaden my knowledge. I am going to take some random classes just to see what's out there. I have also played around with photography, art, etc., but haven't gotten too far to actually hang out with the crowds. Out of all that I have tried, none of them seem to have "clicked" on me. So, I need some new ideas what are skills that would be the most interesting, affordable, useful and are still accessible by someone living and working fulltime in the city (Los Angeles) like me.

Thanks a bunch.

Set goals for yourself, improve yourself so that you are investing your time, not spending it. Ask yourself- who do I want to be in 6 months? Who do I want to be in one year? 5 years? 10 years? Imagine the best you possible, the ideal you. Then set your goals to get there. Embrace the ideal you, fullfill your dreams.



Give me a store clerk with goals, and I'll show you a man who'll make history. Give me a man with no goals, and I'll show you a storeclerk.

-J.C. Penny
 

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Aenigma said:
Set goals for yourself, improve yourself so that you are investing your time, not spending it.
That's inspiring. I have never thought of "investing" my time. Thanks!

Now, the ideal me would be owning my own boat. Well, I don't have a boat, neither the money to buy one and keep it in the marina.

Until then...shall I not be doing something else?
 

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alnite said:
That's inspiring. I have never thought of "investing" my time. Thanks!

Now, the ideal me would be owning my own boat. Well, I don't have a boat, neither the money to buy one and keep it in the marina.

Until then...shall I not be doing something else?
As the phrase goes: if it floats, flys, or f-ucks- you're better off renting.


As for what you want to do, that's up to you! Take sailing lessons? Work on a cruise liner? The limits of your life are defined by the limits of your imagination. Start imagining, and then get to work!
 

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Great idea Amante.. i could actually go for some volunteering myself the way you put it!

My suggestion would be getting into shape if you haven't already. Aside from being/feeling more attractive.. having/exuding more energy.. being all around healthier and possessing more stamina for the day, and respect for your body, the chemicals that it produces are just great!! You can get a lot more testosterone from increasing your muscle structure, and the endorfines that are produced from a solid workout... powerful stuff.

Doesn't have to be a really big time investment, but it's one of the best you can do for yourself atleast.

Also do you read much?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Dude, why not take up sports of some sort? Team sports are ideal

Competition is good, you make a lot of friends. Joina team that plays social basketball or something.
 
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