"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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New Gym Membership: Question before beginning my transformation.

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I noticed a thread on the legitimacy of "skinnyguy.net" which asserts that it is a helpful program and is worth the money.

I weigh 140 lbs (not heavier than that for sure) and stand at 5' 11''. I don't even have a six-pack.

I went to the gym twice last week to familiarize myself with the equipment. I tried most of the machines, and I am well acquainted with it. I found a very helpful member who showed me around. I am now ready to begin training; to develop from a small skinny boy into a ripped man.

What is the BEST way to approach this? Should I purchase the program offered on "skinnyguy.net?"; do it on my own based on the advice posted in DIESEL's sticky; or...?

I am undergoing a lot right now. I am seeking mental, and physical development with a goal to shed myself of this childish AFC skin and step into a different environment. To become in CHARGE of my LIFE. To become a man.

Your advice is appreciated. Thank you.

P.S. Please browse through the HS forum, and find my thread on the first page. I finally took the courage to face my problems, and I need all the help I can get.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Good luck my friend.

My brother should be able to help you out, this kind of thing has been gone over lots of times. The idea is to do this:

A) Eat tons, lots of protein, regular meals.
B) Lift heavy, with good form.
C) Eat tons, lots of protein, regular meals.

Don't do any cardio or anything like that until you have a good weight, your calories might get on a deficit and that means not much growth.

Glad you found the right path, my friend, it's much better to be in charge of your life ;)

something on help: Read the bible, get some good foundations on character down, then take it from there, half the problem with people here are that they don't use what is learnt in everyday life, and expect to be pushed in every correct direction, no real hands-on use of the textbook stuff. Where's the fun in that? :D

PM me some time if you want :)
 

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I bought the skinnyguy.net program years ago. It has very condensed, accurate info, and can save you a lot of time learning how things are done (vs looking through the bad and good free advise and sorting out what to follow). But that program alone will not make you build muscle.

The number one thing you need is consistancy. If you only follow a program for a month or two, then slack off, and repeat, you won't make any progress (or your progress will be very slow).
 

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Originally posted by Shiftkey
I bought the skinnyguy.net program years ago. It has very condensed, accurate info, and can save you a lot of time learning how things are done (vs looking through the bad and good free advise and sorting out what to follow). But that program alone will not make you build muscle.

The number one thing you need is consistency. If you only follow a program for a month or two, then slack off, and repeat, you won't make any progress (or your progress will be very slow).
Whatever route I take, I will be consistent. I have a burning desire to change!

Is skinnyguy.net worth it? Should I go with that program, or do it on my own?
 

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As a 17 year old lifting + eating loads, you should grow like a weed anyway. I don't see the point, but sup to you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I have no regrets buying it. Just the general health knowledge I gained was worth it IMO. They also have a good members only forum with many informed posters.

Whether or not you buy it depends on how much time you want to spend sorting through the free info. You won't learn anything from skinnyguy that you can't learn for free elseware on the net with enough research.
 

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(C&P from another post of mine)

At your current weight I doubt bodyfat is an issue, but it's best to stay away from starchy carbs a few hours before bed (unless you train at night of course). Your diet shouldn't be squeaky clean but not full of junk either.

Source your protein from red meat, whole eggs, chicken, turkey, tuna, lowfat dairy, etc.

Carbs should be from oats, white/sweet potatoes, brown/basmati rice, wholegrain bread, veg (you need lots of fibre when consuming large amounts of protein).

You will be getting fats from red meat and eggs but olive/flax oil are always good to include as well.

Don't forget the micronutrients either: a good multivitamin and EFAs are the bare minimum.

bicep exercise of your choice
forearm exercise of your choice
pulldown variation
deadlift variation

flat db press or incline press
close grip bench or skullcrushers
military press or db press

abs of your choice
calf press of your choice
sumo leg press or leg curl
squats

Do two hard sets, except for calves (just one set), deadlifts (1 set of 10) and squats (1 set of 6-8 heavy, then drop the weight by 25-30% and do 20 reps, quad mass pronto!) - rep ranges will vary but I would say 8-10, some like lower but I prefer higher reps for the safety factor. Some exercises (mostly bis/tris/calves) will benefit from higher reps.

Your mission is to add AT LEAST 2.5lbs or 2 reps to each exercise, EVERY workout. If you don't feel you can make the weight jump then go for more reps - if you fail to beat your exercise then change it for a different exercise.

Example (using 8-10 rep range):
Bicep barbell curl:
Workout 1: 10x75lbs, 8x75lbs
Workout 2: 11x80lbs, 8x75lbs
Workout 3: 8x85lbs - oops.

So you maxed out on barbell curls at 85lbs for 8 reps, next time do preacher curls (say) until you get stuck on them, then either change back to barbell curls or you could also choose a completely new exercise like db curls, drag curls, spider curls etc.

Follow these guidelines, don't be afraid to eat, train hard, be patient and consistent and weigh yourself every MONTH, not every DAY - otherwise the scale will mess with your head.

Good luck! You'll get there!

ps - any questions, just ask or PM :)
 
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