"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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New guy would appreciate some guidance

Jack_Hustle

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What's up guys,

Hi, I'm Jack and I'm a long time viewer, first time poster. I started going through this website in 2010, so I've "been" around quite a bit. I remember NorwegianDJ starting his journal, don't know if he's gonna read this, but to me, he was (and is) an inspiration to all aspiring Teen DJs.

About me: I'm 16, Junior year. 2 sport athlete, 3.8 GPA. Not sure if these things matter a whole ton, but personally, I think it's gonna help my case, not sure though. I'm a guy who isn't total AFC, somewhat attractive, descent confidence, etc. but in some places I've been lacking still, like number closures.

my first question is, kinda embarrassing but fvck it:

Throughout my life, I have rarely/ never talked to my parents about girls at school, Even if was on a non romantic level. It's happened only a couple times and it's so awkward you guys don't even know. How do you guys think I should handle this, such as discussing with them a girl I was going to ask to prom.




Thanks boys,
Jack
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

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Jack_Hustle said:
What's up guys,

Hi, I'm Jack and I'm a long time viewer, first time poster. I started going through this website in 2010, so I've "been" around quite a bit. I remember NorwegianDJ starting his journal, don't know if he's gonna read this, but to me, he was (and is) an inspiration to all aspiring Teen DJs.

About me: I'm 16, Junior year. 2 sport athlete, 3.8 GPA. Not sure if these things matter a whole ton, but personally, I think it's gonna help my case, not sure though. I'm a guy who isn't total AFC, somewhat attractive, descent confidence, etc. but in some places I've been lacking still, like number closures.

my first question is, kinda embarrassing but fvck it:

Throughout my life, I have rarely/ never talked to my parents about girls at school, Even if was on a non romantic level. It's happened only a couple times and it's so awkward you guys don't even know. How do you guys think I should handle this, such as discussing with them a girl I was going to ask to prom.




Thanks boys,
Jack
Much appreciated to hear :)
I still read most things, but I dont allow myself to read every post and replying to them. It's mostly regurgitating.
It's a bit of a sobering experience to see that I went from 'nothing' to having it all, back to almost being lost again. To see how I don't have nearly perfect discipline, how I rationalize not doing what I need to do. It all really comes to making the decision and doing it NOW.

Personally, reading on /r/Askreddit on parent related things has helped me have a different perspective, which should help make it less awkward for you.

Moreover, how are your parents? Could they help you?

It's actually very easy once youve started talking about it. I remember, from the time I lived with my mom, how at dinner I just suddenly started talking about it. "You obviously know Ive lost my virginity, right?" just moving from there. My mom and I werent close and still arent, but it really opened up some channels. Most of the awkwardness is coming from yourself and they will learn to talk about it soon after you take the lead.

Just bring it up at dinner, or after your siblings have left. Or just request your dad aside and chat with him about it.
 

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I'm not sure how much my parents could be a positive influence. I want to keep them in the loop, but I don't think they could help. But I like that website, and I like the approach, thanks man.
 
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