Hello all,
I'll apologize for the length ahead of time
Been reading some of the posts here and am impressed with many of the things i'm reading. Unfortunately I have been an AFC for quite awhile. Without going into too much detail, I was in a long term relationship from the age of about 16-20, it all ended and I found myself in the prime years of my life (college) not knowing anything about how to pursue women. So as probably many before me, I would scare them away with attention.
Fast forward to today (i'm 26) and I still seem to be having some of the same issues. Most recently it was with a girl at work. We've known each other for awhile and would casually talk every now and then but I was never interested in pursuing anything due to the fact we worked together. I would always tease her and stuff but would always focus on just doing my job. Eventually we exchanged numbers and she starts texting me while we are not at work and like a chump, I began to think maybe she was interested and my interest grew. Now she's no smokeshow, maybe a 6-6.5, but has a really goofy/fun personality and seemed down to earth and far better than what I normally pull. We hung out once and got incredibly drunk and we ended up passing out in the same bed, but nothing happened though. prob a huge mistake on my part to get that wasted with her the first time we hung out, but it was her idea. So after that it seemed she was distancing herself and now barely speaks to me at all.
I've accepted I prob made myself too available and did all the things I prob shouldn't have done, and now I just started ignoring her as well, plus I think she is now seeing someone. The point of this post is not to figure out how to raise interest again (although I wouldn't mind simply for my bruised ego) b/c from what I can gather from other posts, you just have to move on, but to ask for future assistance so this doesn't happen again down the road. I am now ready to be on the path do be a DJ and hopefully you more experienced members can help me out.
Here's the questions
What are ya'lls thoughts on seeing someone where you work? How would you have played it if this happened to you? Am I doing the right thing in just ignoring her now? and Is it natural to want to try and respark interest?
Any advice or observation would be appreciated.
I'll apologize for the length ahead of time
Been reading some of the posts here and am impressed with many of the things i'm reading. Unfortunately I have been an AFC for quite awhile. Without going into too much detail, I was in a long term relationship from the age of about 16-20, it all ended and I found myself in the prime years of my life (college) not knowing anything about how to pursue women. So as probably many before me, I would scare them away with attention.
Fast forward to today (i'm 26) and I still seem to be having some of the same issues. Most recently it was with a girl at work. We've known each other for awhile and would casually talk every now and then but I was never interested in pursuing anything due to the fact we worked together. I would always tease her and stuff but would always focus on just doing my job. Eventually we exchanged numbers and she starts texting me while we are not at work and like a chump, I began to think maybe she was interested and my interest grew. Now she's no smokeshow, maybe a 6-6.5, but has a really goofy/fun personality and seemed down to earth and far better than what I normally pull. We hung out once and got incredibly drunk and we ended up passing out in the same bed, but nothing happened though. prob a huge mistake on my part to get that wasted with her the first time we hung out, but it was her idea. So after that it seemed she was distancing herself and now barely speaks to me at all.
I've accepted I prob made myself too available and did all the things I prob shouldn't have done, and now I just started ignoring her as well, plus I think she is now seeing someone. The point of this post is not to figure out how to raise interest again (although I wouldn't mind simply for my bruised ego) b/c from what I can gather from other posts, you just have to move on, but to ask for future assistance so this doesn't happen again down the road. I am now ready to be on the path do be a DJ and hopefully you more experienced members can help me out.
Here's the questions
What are ya'lls thoughts on seeing someone where you work? How would you have played it if this happened to you? Am I doing the right thing in just ignoring her now? and Is it natural to want to try and respark interest?
Any advice or observation would be appreciated.
