"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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New Guy On SoSuave, first time using Your Advice

slickaz

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Hey Lads,
Im new on here, i was checkin out some tips on number closing and found this amazing website a couple days ago.
Read through some of your superb plays and plans, inspired me.

About me,
Good things:
I am an average lookin black guy, i do work out alot and "think" i have a pretty ok body as i recently was a personal trainer and have been working out for 4 years.
I play <<token>> basketball, drums and i DJ.
I am a pretty ok dancer, "superb" ive been told by some. meh!
I dont have a problem number closing, dont get the Umms, errrr..
I dress well, not hood, but classy, brands like Ralph, Perry Ellis,gaultier, Red Monkey,Audgier..mostly blazers and good shirts with nice jeans and cleaned shoes..
I have a pretty good job for a 25 year old as a Global Business Consultant for one of the top 4 agencies.

Not so Good things:
I have a problem approaching girls.<<the girls i get numbers from and land are usually intro'd to me by friends>>
I have once been the victim of a girl giving me a false number.
I also have a problem <<depending on the HB level>> of making first moves.
I AM VERY BAD WITH NAMES!.lol.short term memory wise..
I do not drink or do drugs, so im not in a position to blame drunk when i do smtn stupid.lol

So Here is my first try:

so...the reason i was initially lookin for some tips was because i was going to a friends birthday party last night and i needed some advice on how to approach and nnumber close.

heres the story, you can tell me if i have made ya'll proud, give me advice, or constructively critisise.

It was a friends party, a dude, his dad is a gazillionare and has a house on the beach front. I knew this guy would have a TON! of hot girls because, hes the rich kid that has a drop top merc and 'The Hills' (MTV) look with it.

I pulled up there at 10ish with 2 friends, walked in and was surprised because 60% were girls, and id say the lowest was a 7. Now pre-Sosuave.net, i wouldve gone up to the host holla'd at him, and if he has any single girls arounud him id talk to them when i get introduced and much later, i mean much much later would number close.

But after 2 days of reading all your works, i decided darn it im in it to win it, if i dont try im going home alone, if i do try, and get NO! i go home alone, but if i do try and get yes, then maybe not.

So i see 4 chics that im diggin from my view. I lean over to the host and ask which ones are single and what their names are. so i repeat the names on the ones that are single..3 of them.
I walk up to the first one, sitting on a couch with her friends and sit next to her. she looks at me, i smile and said
M: Hi, how you going?

she seems to be interested because she turned around from her friends looked me up and down while doing this and intro'd herself <ill call her 1>>, easy HB 8, blonde legs till tomorow.
This is where sosuave comes in, i didnt give her my name, to see if she was interested enough to ask me for it.
I then proceeded to fluff talk a lil about how she knew the host. while she was answering im trying to listen and scan for further topics of interest. looked at her watch, and her phone and her bag, and her shoes, all prada. So when she was done i fluffed about the host then i said..so..

Me: u like prada huh?
she: was surprised and said how can you tell?
M: as far as i can see you're decked in Prada top to bottom.
S: laughs, yeh i love that you get a phone designed by them.
M: To be honest, I thought maybe you were a marketin exec for Prada when i first saw you from over there.
S: Laughs again, so is that why you came over?
M: Yeh i thought i could score some free stuff if i got in your good books! *laugh*just kiddin, please believe you are making that brand absolutely shine! in this place, i think they owe you sales revenue.
S: Giggles, thanks.thats very sweet of you..my lawyers will call prada!
M: so anyway listen, ur being unfair by holding me back from my clique, i mean share share! girl!..lol im jokin, im sorry i would love to accompany you throughout tonight but im afraid i have to be check on my friends wellbeing...**one smooth move pullin out phone from pocket placin it in her hands**but maybe i can give you call sometime, or atleast say i have your number when my boys and me see you on a prada ad?
S: Laughs again, you dont have to make a story up to get my number, or call me,sexy. i dont usually give out numbers but ur pretty fly..enters number, she then says, give me a missed ring now so i can save yours.
M: cal her number.
S: ok..but wait..how rude of me! i havent even asked you your name, im so sorry...
M: its k..pretty women eh!! lol.my name is X
S: hahaha, cool X, ill look forward to talkin to you soon..

So i walk away smilin.

Anyway later that night <2am> i got a text from her going, hey it was real nice meetin you, shame we couldnt get a dance. its cool next time maybe.give me a cal tomorow.xox.1

at this point everyones drunk expect me, the party is still going on, so i said ok im going to find this girl and get her private.walk around, find her standing on the back overlookin the beach with her friends.

M: Excuse me ladies, what is it out there that is takin ur attention away from all these..umm..gentlemen in here?
They: laugh
S: hey X, are ur "friends" ok?!
M: No..theres one on the floor, other on the couch kissin some girl, other playin drunk poker there pointin all of them.yeh no this is usual.
S: laughs, intro's me to her girls. <<GORGEOUS! hb8.5s>
M: how come you girls are not drinkin or dancin?
S: we got work tomorow plus takin it easy.
M: Im sorry ladies, im going to have to steal your prized gf here away from a quick dance, is that ok?
S: why are you asking them, what about askin me
M: quit playin girl u kno u wanna get close to this!
S: laughs! i like this song too, lets go dance before it gets over.
we go in dance.....

I pull out some salsa moves on her twirl her around hip to hip close etc. shes likin it smilin, like wow! you can dance! me, na im just workin with what ur givin me.. wink.
i pull her close, too close..nuf to feel her breath and oh she picked up the sean john fragrance on me. i think it turned her on, coz she was basically just not movin away from me.
i looked into her eyes and << AGAIN! SOSUAVE.NET PLAY HERE >>
M: R u wearing something on your lips?
S: huh?
M: well they are shining of the lights like some diamonds! hurtin my eyes!! lol
S: yeh its called lipcolor gloss, maybelline.
M: HUH!not prada!!!! uh oh we have a problem
S: hahah really? like what
M: There is a tax in this country for wearing lipcolor that is not the same brand as the one you're marketin..
S: hahahah, really? whats the charge officer!
M: Well ill have to take a sample to check consistensy then i can tell you
S: How do you plan on takin a sample?
M: ill have to taste it off your lips.
S: HUH! officer X! is that legal?
M: Oh yes, infact theres statutes and laws for that!
S: well, i dont wanna be breaking the law, besides im sure im goin to enjoy this
M: Oh no absolutely, we guarantee our services, no pain only pleasure.
S: shut up and get to it will you
we kiss..smoothest kiss ever man!..my hands were running all over her body.she pulled away for a sec.
S: I dont usually do this, but ur too damn smooth boy. i dont wanna do this here lets go somewhere else.
M: come with me.
we go to the rooftop, noone knows how to get there, overlookin the city on one side and the sea on the other.
we kiss for AAAAAAGES! finished at 6amish when the sun was coming up.
i didnt want to expect anymore <like getting head>, not on the first night, she looked a stunna! and was a decent girl, she called her friends when she realised it was 6am, and they had all gone home after texting her like a 100 times askin where she was.lol.so i dropped her home after breakfast.

She said uve been very sweet yet smooth...and i love the way u kiss..u can take tax from me anytime wink wink and ran inside..
i smiled and drove away.

I will give her a text later today or tomorow AM because shes text me this morning saying her lips are so sore from all that kissin.lol.

Advice? did i do ok?

Sorry it was so long but i thought the more detail i put now in my first post the more ya'll can know me and advice.

This weekend i am hoping to go to a Brazilian party and i love latinos!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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slickaz

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Thank you young sir, im learning from you experienced cats..slowly.

honestly though i never thought i could do it, never thought i could be the guy to go up to a HOTT girl and say hi. i also forgot to mention eye contact, i seem to be a lil shy when a girls looking at me i tend not to look at her. i guess i have to change that.

but after 2 days of reading these forums and tips i grabbed my cahunas and went in..and it was so so worth it!
 

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ok so she just text me from wakin up,
Thanks for a superb night/morning, when you get some time, call me and we can "hang out" more.

im starting to think this is not right, because i am not ready for a relationship, is she expecting something long term? serious? i dont know but if so, what do i do?
 

daygameguy

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slickaz said:
ok so she just text me from wakin up,
Thanks for a superb night/morning, when you get some time, call me and we can "hang out" more.

im starting to think this is not right, because i am not ready for a relationship, is she expecting something long term? serious? i dont know but if so, what do i do?
why did you win her over if you are not ready for a relationship. that's really bad. you need to ask yourself about what exactly you are looking for. Guys who wanna be players and get lays, work differently than guys who wanna be in relationships.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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slickaz

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Confucious say "to find the rose, man go through many thorns"

. na You're getting me wrong dude, i dont mean im playing her, im not playing nobody, i wanna see more of her i just dont know if shes too clingy coz shes text me like 12 times today and ive only known her like since 11pm last night, not even 24 hours.

im not a player man, i been in 2 4 year relationships since i was 16 ive been locked..im looking for the right girl, coz im kind of looking for possibly the final girlfriend in the next..so i wanna be sure from the start..didnt mean to give you the "im a playa" feel bro..im far from it.
 

daygameguy

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slickaz said:
Confucious say "to find the rose, man go through many thorns"

. na You're getting me wrong dude, i dont mean im playing her, im not playing nobody, i wanna see more of her i just dont know if shes too clingy coz shes text me like 12 times today and ive only known her like since 11pm last night, not even 24 hours.

im not a player man, i been in 2 4 year relationships since i was 16 ive been locked..im looking for the right girl, coz im kind of looking for possibly the final girlfriend in the next..so i wanna be sure from the start..didnt mean to give you the "im a playa" feel bro..im far from it.
it's all good man, its all good ;) its like wasting water... many countries and communities have such acute water shortages.. and so my blood boils when i see people wasting water.. same with girls.. so many nice guys dying to meet cute girls... and players are just pounding and abandoning them.. having a bit of integrity is always good.
 

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That's a very detailed post. I'm surprised you remembered everything. What's funny is that this girl was all too aware you were gaming her and couldn't care less. She was already interested and willing to give out her number before you even asked. She was also impatient when it came to the kiss you both knew was coming. Those are good things though in a way.

"S: Laughs again, you dont have to make a story up to get my number, or call me,sexy. i dont usually give out numbers but ur pretty fly..enters number, she then says, give me a missed ring now so i can save yours."

"S: shut up and get to it will you"
 
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