new girls ex bf wants to know about me....

[Mxrider01]

Short version..started seeing a girl recently and its been about 2 months. Her recent ex boyfriend has out of nowhere started texting her and seeing if she wants to hang out, she has told him that she "seeing someone" and cant do that. So naturally he starts asking questions about who is "he" and what's his name and bs like that. She has not told him any details as of yet....But she is asking me what to say or do. I said "hell no" he will be pissed and stalk me, who knows what his reaction will be.

We have no reason to hide, but I simply worry about the repercussions and bs of a bad reaction form him finding out who I am.

What do you guys think should be done? or said?

 

[window]

tell her you dont usually go out with girls who have ex's hanging around and she will be no exception...also it is not your problem to fix it is hers. but you need to tell her your position on the matter and not give some lamo answer like you did.

 

[window]

tell her you dont usually go out with girls who have ex's hanging around and she will be no exception...

 

[scrouds]

What's she doing talking to the ex at all. Tell her to not respond to him and ignore all future texts / calls

 

[Mxrider01]

They broke up the month before her and I started talking. So its relatively new and she is playing nice because he is lonely and confused.

I kept the story short...

I told her she needs to to tell him flat out because we have nothing to hide. Just don't give him my name, which he does not need. And the fact that she needs to cut ties with him permanently.

 

[Slickster]

What do you guys think should be done? or said?

Nothing should be said to the ex. He should be ignored at this point.

This is a great opportunity for you to set this relationship on the right course in terms of respect. Nip this sh!t in the bud with an ultimatum.

Tell her, "If you still have issues with your ex then I'm not interested in pursuing this relationship any further."

Demand respect early on and you will benefit in the long run.

 

[Nutz]

Short version..started seeing a girl recently and its been about 2 months. Her recent ex boyfriend has out of nowhere started texting her and seeing if she wants to hang out, she has told him that she "seeing someone" and cant do that. So naturally he starts asking questions about who is "he" and what's his name and bs like that. She has not told him any details as of yet....But she is asking me what to say or do. I said "hell no" he will be pissed and stalk me, who knows what his reaction will be.

We have no reason to hide, but I simply worry about the repercussions and bs of a bad reaction form him finding out who I am.

What do you guys think should be done? or said?

Tell her she needs to cut off contact with him. Under no circumstances is she to discuss her relationship status with him and IMO not even be talking to him in the first place.

tell her you dont usually go out with girls who have ex's hanging around and she will be no exception...also it is not your problem to fix it is hers. but you need to tell her your position on the matter and not give some lamo answer like you did.

Exactly!

 

[backbreaker]

I mean, ex's talk. that is just real life. Itr's one thing for her to talk about you but if she it sounds like she is creating uncalled for drama. I have a no drama policy. this girl needs to be put in place or left.


my thing is, I'm not going to tell you to do anything. i'm not going to wate time trying to mold a woman into something i want her to be or act how I want her to act (I'm talking about fudemental things like, still talking to ex's about me everyay and creating drama).. I'm just going to leave or at worst, spin other plates.

this is just a red flag to me. she's a drama starter.