New Girlfriend Trouble (Advice Please)

[wonderbread]

Hey everyone this is my first post here and I'm having a little trouble.

I've known my girlfriend for about a year before we were officially in a relationship. To be honest she asked me out when I first met her but the only reason I didn't is I had just gotten out of a relationship and needed some space. She moved away from my house and moved to a different school(We're in High School Srs bsns amirite?) She moved last March and we drifted apart as you could imagine, being far away and only texting about once a week not even that. Eventually she kind of forgot about me, as did I with her. She got a boyfriend and they were serious for about 4 months, until they broke up. Out of nowhere one day she starts texting me and calling me talking about how she is so sad that her boyfriend broke up with her and just needed someone to talk to. In a minor AFC manor I decided I could be her tampon for a while. I went to her house, one thing led to another and we had sex. After a while we decided to start going out. Everything was going great, despite the distance barrier (we now lived an hour away instead of 10 minutes). Then she starts talking a lot about her ex-boyfriend. I think I rushed into getting into a relationship with this girl. I don't think she is over him, and I'm getting a little jealous to be honest. She said that she loves me and she would never cheat on me and it's over between them but they still talk a lot. On occasion she misplaces my name with his, calling me by his first or last name. My question is what should I do? I am almost positive that she is still not over this other guy, and I've been thinking about dumping her, because she constantly makes drama between us during the week, like bringing up what her ex-boyfriend did or what his friends said about her and generally getting me involved and getting me frustrated. But when I drive out to see her on the weekend she acts like it never happened and everything is amazing when I'm with her. So Don Juans, what do you think is the appropriate response to this? Should I stick with my gut and dump her or should I continue this and see where it goes, possibly ending in more pain, but having more sexy time?

 

[wonderbread]

bump for confusing relationship problems..

 

[Da Realist]

Yeah, you need to find a girl closer to home.

 

[Dante420]

You shouldn't have started this relationship, looking back you can't say you don't feel pushed right? Just use this as a lesson to learn from and it'll all be worth it.

 

[alphaace]

Tell her you don't care about her ex and what he and his friends say and see where it goes from there. As long as your getting what you want (sex) just apply the two strike rule.



P.S. Noting is serious after only four months.

 

[wonderbread]

Yeah, you need to find a girl closer to home.

Good point, but I accidentally screwed up the time, I meant it only takes an hour there and back, so 30 minutes to her house.

You shouldn't have started this relationship, looking back you can't say you don't feel pushed right? Just use this as a lesson to learn from and it'll all be worth it.

Yeah I guess I do feel pushed, honestly I do feel a little like a rebound guy because she basically said she wasn't going to wait forever for me to ask her out so I asked her out about 3 days later.

More help from others would always be appreciated. And I'm going over to her house this Saturday and I'm wondering if I do break up with her, break up with her there or wait until I get home and do it over the phone?

 

[wonderbread]

Tell her you don't care about her ex and what he and his friends say and see where it goes from there. As long as your getting what you want (sex) just apply the two strike rule.



P.S. Noting is serious after only four months.

Yeah that's pretty much what I'm interested in, emotional connections are fun but it all comes down to is she going to be cheating on me with her ex. And by 2 strike rule do you mean 2 strikes if she's talking about him?

 

[DJDamage]

She said that she loves me and she would never cheat on me and it's over between them but they still talk a lot

Reading between the lines what she told this is what I see:

She may say she loves you but its him she thinks about more.

She may never cheat on you like she said but if the opportunity comes she will jump ship.

If they still talk then it means something is brewing and it ain't really over between the two of them.

My conclusion:
Your relationship with this girl is on borrowed time, which means sometimes in the near distant future she will lay the bomb on you and dump you or she may already be cheating and playing you right now.

You now have two choices:
You can either milk it until she breaks up with you (while hooking up with other girls so when it will be over you won't miss a beat) or end it now.

 

[alphaace]

Yeah that's pretty much what I'm interested in, emotional connections are fun but it all comes down to is she going to be cheating on me with her ex. And by 2 strike rule do you mean 2 strikes if she's talking about him?

Yes. Three strikes if the sex is amazing though.

 

[DonGorgon]

Turn her into a F buddy.. tell you that you guys should take it slow and see where it goes..lol she will love that you grabbed such power so boldly. then F her brains out. I recommend this action cause she is a young ho not capable of commitment or being trusted.. she is horny experimenting and being chased by 10000000000 guys old and young.. y0ou should just F her and let some other lame dude deal with her emotional psychosis.

You is she is cool wen she is with you but odd when you are apart.. that is something i have notice to be quit common with young hos cause most of what they show you is an act.. which they drop when they think its ok..