New girlfriend, she puts up a challenge and is very intelligent. (Advice needed)

[aznxboi]

Hey everyone, Well I just had this new girlfriend. We been going out for about a week. I just talked to her about sex and she said she wanted to wait until she gets marry (like pretty much all girls, but end up not living up to their words in the end.) We made out today, I felt her whole body (with clothes on.) Later on she was telling me she felt a little uncomfortable when I was touching her chest, because no guys have ever done that to her before. But I manage to talk my way out of it. I truly respect her, and she surely is really smart and quite a thinker in relationship wise.

How am I suppose to be able to convince her in the future to sleep with me in the future, besides a really good seducing ? Or is it pointless. I really like this girl, we have lots of thing in common. But she knows probably the same amount of stuff as I do in relationship wise kind of things.

 

[TheRelic]

Keep it cool, play cat and mouse, progressively up the temp over a few months. If you are a decent catch and her conviction isn't solid, she'll want to initiate...

 

[duttylove]

dear god, i wish i had your problem, the girls i hook up with all lost there virginity at the age of 14. and im pretty sure they wernt married.

 

[Mortukai]

Later on she was telling me she felt a little uncomfortable when I was touching her chest, because no guys have ever done that to her before.

That's bullsh!t. She was uncomfortable because, like 99% of girls, she is insecure about her tits. Too big, too small, too wonky, too insert-random-problem-here. Only she's more insecure than most (probably got smaller tits), but she fed you some bull**** about no guys touching her tits before. C'mon. If no guys had touched her tits, then they wouldn't have touched her pvssy either, and she didn't seem to mention that.

My advice: be persistant, but play it cool. Like TheRelic said, play cat and mouse. Get her really turned on, then back off a bit. Then get her even more turned on, then back off some more. Repeat until she is frothing between the thighs. You should know what to do then. If she feeds you some crap about waiting till she's married, go back to kissing her because she's not hot enough yet.

 

[catch]

hiya mate, hows it goin?

so.... youve just got a new girl ha ha, it happens every time....
you start to like her, then you start to like her alot and then YOU start to get confused.

she doesnt want sex until shes married... she doesnt feel comfortable when you touch her... she wants to take it slow..etc

well, to tell you the truth, alot of women will say all that stuff, very few of them will mean it..... so, its your job to find out what she really means.

when she says all that stuff what she probably means is...

i like you, and i want you to prove you are real man, and seduce me, instead of all the ***** hedge hoppers ive dated recently... all my repressed sexual needs are about to blow, i need someone to lead me astray and give me pleasure.

thats what she probably means....
when you hear of all these sensible girls, you know the kind, the good girls, you will be very supprised when they open up in the bedroom!!!!!

so whatever you do, dont become predictable, always be supprising and spontanious.... send her a few sexual mixed signals, one seconed she makes you hot, the next she makes you cold...

if you dont do it soon, she will loose interest, and go release all those needs on some other guy...

let her know you are a sexual god and she will follow your wishes.

 

[aznxboi]

Originally posted by Mortukai
C'mon. If no guys had touched her tits, then they wouldn't have touched her pvssy either, and she didn't seem to mention that.

Oh actually she did told me that as well, I just forgot to include it in earlier. Well the farthest she ever gone with a guy was making out. I found it surprising, because she had two relationship before I met her. Well, I just want to know what happen if I turn her on very good and then decided to unstrap her bra and she say something like "No" or "I'm not ready yet" what would be a good response ? I was thinkin, "Well, I just want to be more intimate with her at a quicker pace. So I decided to take a risk."

 

[PRMoon]

Just take things slow with her and make her fee comfortable about the situation. I suppose you should work on things from the emotional end more so then the physical end so you can get her thinking about sex with you more when you're not around her.

I also recommed you keep playing the field. Putting yourself out there keeps you honest about where you are with this girl, in terms of how much actuall progress you've made with her over a given period of time. If weeks, months, years go buy and you haven't gotten what you want, then you should re-evaluate the reality of your relationship with this girl. You don't want to waste her, or infinately more valuable, your time.