New Girlfriend Is Having Trust Issues, Need Advice

[soulforge]

Im as guilty of this as anyone but you need to let this girl go...

I kind of agree with you mate.. its been alot of drama since I started seeing her..


But on this occasion, she might be thinking that I am seeing another woman, because she found those hairs in my bathroom..

She has been cheated on in the past, so I can see how something like this would bother her.. but I have explained the situation, so why has she escalate things further

I wont lie, I really like this chick, but the games are really making me doubt her..


maybe I should ask her what her problem is? See how she responds.. Maybe I should tell her straight, if she plays games from here on, then I will walk away for good

 

[Bible_Belt]

I would subtly arrange for your gf and the other girl to meet. Run into them by accident at a bar at least. Then she'll see the reality - which is much less of a threat to her than what she is imagining. Not knowing the other girl is making her imagination run wild.

None of this is logical; you did nothing wrong. But being the one who is correct has nothing to do with winning arguments with women. Logic by itself doesn't work. You have to win over her emotions.

 

[SAYNO]

Eject

Every single time, I had a situation come up like this I got burned...
Imho it sounds like she is either very insecure or guilty of something herself. :kick: Maybe shes lost intrest or perhaps met a better option. I wouldnt wait around to try and figure it out. My older brother had a saying that went like this: "If you can't trust me then I can't trust you".

Think about it.:yes:

 

[teebear]

I hate to say it but I think that she's looking for an excuse to break up with you. I would prepare myself for it if I were in your shoes.

I hope I'm wrong.

 

[Thorninmyside]

She's treating you like a boyfriend who has something to be sorry for, and you're playing along. Quit it.

You're the one who should be sending the long awaited one word texts, if anything at all. She should be apologizing to you and asking HER friends "what do I do?"

 

[soulforge]

Update guys...

So she sent me a text yesterday and it said AFTERNOON

I just ignored and carried on with my day.. Ignored her all day... last night I get a text saying.. why are you avoiding me?

I gnored for about an hour.. then replied, just been busy with stuff.. then she start asking me how my day has been, blah blah blah

Anyhow she wants to meet me on tonight, and she even suggested having sex!


My guess is, this was a **** test... she became distant and thought she could punish me, but I didn't panick and start texting her like crazy.

Then when I ignored her text, think it was her who started to panick

 

[Soolaimon]

Anyhow she wants to meet me on tonight, and she even suggested having sex!

Don't let her use sex as a manipulation tool cause she will.

Trust issues are a big thing and if she doesn't trust you your relationship is going to be a mess from here on out.

She will always be questioning you thinking you are up to no good. Then you will have to explain your whereabouts turning into more of a beta while she tries to control you.

She could think you're cheating on her and she can cheat on you.

Too much drama and $hit to deal with an untrusting and insecure chick.

She did you a favor showing her true colors early on.

It's all apart of the screening process looking for red flags of insecurity and crappy behavior.

She should be screened out and let go.

If you let it slide it's going to lead to worse problems down the road.

It's up to you what you want to but this is your best choice to avoid further problems with her.