"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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New girl, Xmas coming.

playerone

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I was out tonight and saw this girl at an eating place near where i stay. She looked familiar and i realised she was a fellow primary schoolmate. I sat down with my friends, and she was with a female friend too. We were a few seats away, and i caught her looking in my direction, not sure if it was at me though. I gave her a "Do i know you?" look, and we maintained eye contact for about 5 seconds. Later, her friend went to get some food, so she was left alone.

I went up to her table and said, "Hey.. your primary school is Princess Elizabeth? (that's the name of my sch)". She replied yeah and i continued to ask her "Do you remember me?". She said i look familiar, and i proceeded to say, "You have MSN right? Give me your email address", as i took out my cell phone and handed it to her. As she was entering her email into my phone, i said, "So what are you doing here?". She said she just came to eat, and i was wondering why she was dressed nicely just to have a meal so i said "So you live here?". She said yeah and handed me my cell phone back. So i went back to my table to join my friends for a meal.

I walked past her table later, and didn't give her any eye contact whatever, I didn't even look at her. And afterwards i left the place.

So, now i'm thinking whether to add her on MSN and start the talking like tomorrow, or give it a few days. I'm in doubt because it's a few more days to XMAS. And i'm thinking if i could set a date for any day next week, doesn't have to be on XMAS day itself.

What do you guys think? I need some help, I want this girl but i'm staying wuss-free at the same time. Any genuine advice is greatly appreciated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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First, why did you ask for her e-mail and not her phone number? Atleast she gave you her e-mail though...

You didn't really make much of a conversation with her. Besides, asking if you remember each other and what her e-mail was. But, wait like a day and e-mail her saying something like; It was good seeing you again. We should catch up sometime before christmas. - Cause, christmas is getting close and people are usually busy with their familys.

If she agrees then, take it from there.
 

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Coz' i'm in an asian country, and we use MSN more so it's more comfortable instead of giving numbers which would feel a little intruding sometimes. I'm going to get her number after chatting her up and setting up a date. I've waited a day to add her up, and she hasn't been online.

We don't read emails a lot here, instant messaging is too widely used. Hence, i'm going to have to wait til' she gets online.

Thanks.
 

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ROFL

I asked whats her email and handed her my phone!!! Funniest thing i have read on these forums in a while.....

ahahhah
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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