New Girl Just Became Long Distance

[JeremyKel]

Hey guys,

So I met this girl at a bar over Christmas. Pretty awesome connection, and she's definitely girlfriend material.

Problem is, she lives about 8 hours away as she is off at school until summer.

I think it's pretty unreasonable for anything to develop right now, but I was thinking about keeping some communication alive while she's away at school so I have something to work with when she gets back.

I've been very busy, and long distance is a *****... so we have just talked briefly over FB / texting. Is keeping this kind of text contact a bad idea? Should I just wait until she gets back to initiate contact?

I'm not hung up on her at all, and I've begun pursuing other women. Just curious about your thoughts regarding keeping text based communication with long distance girl?

J

 

[808]

Ever tried calling her? I'd use that as a medium for contact with her, but I wouldn't give her any priority, especially if you're already spinning plates at home. If it were me, I'd have let it go.

Pursue the women that you can actually see.

One other thing, don't look at any woman as potential 'girlfriend material' until after several dates; and even then, the woman should be the one to initiate the exclusivity. It's a bad mindset to get into (may be kinda off topic)

 

[mikeyb]

^ What he said. But make sure these phone conversations don't land you in the friend zone, keep them short and make it clear you're not her gay friend!