"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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New Girl Just Became Long Distance

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Hey guys,

So I met this girl at a bar over Christmas. Pretty awesome connection, and she's definitely girlfriend material.

Problem is, she lives about 8 hours away as she is off at school until summer.

I think it's pretty unreasonable for anything to develop right now, but I was thinking about keeping some communication alive while she's away at school so I have something to work with when she gets back.

I've been very busy, and long distance is a *****... so we have just talked briefly over FB / texting. Is keeping this kind of text contact a bad idea? Should I just wait until she gets back to initiate contact?

I'm not hung up on her at all, and I've begun pursuing other women. Just curious about your thoughts regarding keeping text based communication with long distance girl?

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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ever tried calling her? I'd use that as a medium for contact with her, but I wouldn't give her any priority, especially if you're already spinning plates at home. If it were me, I'd have let it go.

Pursue the women that you can actually see.

One other thing, don't look at any woman as potential 'girlfriend material' until after several dates; and even then, the woman should be the one to initiate the exclusivity. It's a bad mindset to get into (may be kinda off topic)
 
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^ What he said. But make sure these phone conversations don't land you in the friend zone, keep them short and make it clear you're not her gay friend!
 
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