"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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mattl182001

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Update: She finally texts me back at 930pm saying:

"Hey sorry I never got back to you...I have a deadline tomorrow so I've been kinda swamped...rain check?"

I don't plan on responding. Interest level is clearly low.. May hit her up in a week or two.

Thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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mattl182001 said:
Update: She finally texts me back at 930pm saying:

"Hey sorry I never got back to you...I have a deadline tomorrow so I've been kinda swamped...rain check?"

I don't plan on responding. Interest level is clearly low.. May hit her up in a week or two.

Thoughts?
Yup. When they say rain check I'll do exactly that - drop her a line in a week or two. If she doesn't go along with plans or make a specific counter off at that point then I guess she's decided it's just going to keep raining.
 

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mattl182001 said:
I hate this too. Very annoying. I still haven't heard anything all day, so definitely seems her interest level is low. No biggies.. just bonus plate potential. I'll see her at the pool this summer ;)
Like you said man look @ this like pratice! You got her # on the 18th & you randomly asked her out the next day. Sorry man sounds pretty eager to me & now you are annoyed you haven't heard anything all day? Build some more rapport man slow it down a notch, she barely knows you so yeah IL is prolly low. You are on the right track thought good stuff!
 

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hockeyfreak79 said:
Like you said man look @ this like pratice! You got her # on the 18th & you randomly asked her out the next day. Sorry man sounds pretty eager to me & now you are annoyed you haven't heard anything all day? Build some more rapport man slow it down a notch, she barely knows you so yeah IL is prolly low. You are on the right track thought good stuff!
Thanks for the response!
Yep, good practice and will learn from it. I felt the interest was high after the first meeting so my logic was to 'strike while the iron is hot' and keep the momentum going. Other hand is that you get into texting/calling forever which as been discussed. A chance you have to take...

How would you have handled it different? I like hearing others' strategy.
 

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Update: So I never responded to her last text she sent a couple days ago asking for a rain check. Last night she calls me around 1am. I let it ring and didn't answer. She immediately calls a second time and again I don't answer. (Couldn't have answered anyway because I was actually in bed with a chick from tinder, lol). After they second call, she sends me a text saying "no, ok then". An hour later I respond with "hey just saw you called what's up?". She replies, "I was walking home alone and needed some company" and I replied "sorry couldn't talk" and she says "no worries".

To me it clearly seems she's annoyed I wasn't responding. What do you guys think? And lesson learned- keep those plates spinning and be patient!

Next move? Was thinking play text game and meet up naturally.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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