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Master Don Juan
So, this new girl I'm dating happens to have a few male friends. How many? Quite a few I imagine, she's really, really attractive. Most attractive girls have AFC orbiter male friends. We all know this and accept it as part of the game.
I may need a reminder, but how exactly do I move forward on this?
I really like this girl. But I'm not naive. I'm not going to let that cloud my judgment.
Here's the current scenario:
She's a young (22-yo) and pretty girl in another part of the state attending a conference. So, she's by herself in a place she's never been. Somehow, someway, her male friend Tyler, who lives a couple hours away from where she is staying, is coming to spend some time with her. I just got off the phone with her, when she mentioned him, I didn't react.
I've mentioned male friends w/ respect to girls and how it's typically a facade. I didn't want to get into it, but she practically agreed (to an extent). I know it's difficult for girls to admit these things, even if they know it's true, because it undermines their power. So in a sense, it kind of leaned a bit in my favor.
The good news is, her IL is fairly high. How high? I'm not sure. But I'm not turning into jello and spilling my guts just because she's really good looking.
My problem lies in understanding my own boundaries. As far as I know, this is the first time since I've dated her that she's hung out with another guy.
Do I feel comfortable with her spending the day with another guy in another city far, far from me? No, not really. So the question is, what next? We've only been talking/dating for about two weeks, but we just had sex for the first time two nights ago (and she made me dinner, and initiated having me spend the night).
Overall, she's a 22 year old young girl with hormones and a social environment filled with feminist propaganda. I'm really cautious with girls and my feelings. There's nothing I hate more than being optimistic about a situation, only to fool myself into thinking it's "different this time" - my old inner-AFC jealousy and insecurities begin to creep in.
Background on me: I dropped two plates recently and haven't picked up new ones. The only thing I can think of doing at this point is distancing myself a bit and continue to meet new girls.
Honestly, this all feels like a f*cking chore.
Maybe some encouraging words would make me feel better. I don't know.
I may need a reminder, but how exactly do I move forward on this?
I really like this girl. But I'm not naive. I'm not going to let that cloud my judgment.
Here's the current scenario:
She's a young (22-yo) and pretty girl in another part of the state attending a conference. So, she's by herself in a place she's never been. Somehow, someway, her male friend Tyler, who lives a couple hours away from where she is staying, is coming to spend some time with her. I just got off the phone with her, when she mentioned him, I didn't react.
I've mentioned male friends w/ respect to girls and how it's typically a facade. I didn't want to get into it, but she practically agreed (to an extent). I know it's difficult for girls to admit these things, even if they know it's true, because it undermines their power. So in a sense, it kind of leaned a bit in my favor.
The good news is, her IL is fairly high. How high? I'm not sure. But I'm not turning into jello and spilling my guts just because she's really good looking.
My problem lies in understanding my own boundaries. As far as I know, this is the first time since I've dated her that she's hung out with another guy.
Do I feel comfortable with her spending the day with another guy in another city far, far from me? No, not really. So the question is, what next? We've only been talking/dating for about two weeks, but we just had sex for the first time two nights ago (and she made me dinner, and initiated having me spend the night).
Overall, she's a 22 year old young girl with hormones and a social environment filled with feminist propaganda. I'm really cautious with girls and my feelings. There's nothing I hate more than being optimistic about a situation, only to fool myself into thinking it's "different this time" - my old inner-AFC jealousy and insecurities begin to creep in.
Background on me: I dropped two plates recently and haven't picked up new ones. The only thing I can think of doing at this point is distancing myself a bit and continue to meet new girls.
Honestly, this all feels like a f*cking chore.
Maybe some encouraging words would make me feel better. I don't know.